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How big do you dream?

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In a recent chat with Zoe  - she of the amazing powers to create plans of action and get to the heart of the matter - we hit upon some uncomfortable points for me, they reminded me of therapy. And then it hit me, this is what life coaching is about. I was having a coaching session with Zoe, and while the experience on the surface of it seems easy, let me tell you it's not.

It starts off easily enough - your friend is moving into the coaching sphere and wants to make sure her process works. You go, yeah I have no idea about anything in my life anymore, let's give this a whirl. You get a short questionnaire, that you're told not to spend longer than five minutes on answering the few questions on. You see the questionnaire and okay it's easy-ish, you can do this....but why do I need to think about these things.Eventually, you answer the questions and send them back...and start the fun time of scheduling your half an hour call - I totally went for the voice call option, video call is not my friend.

And then you have the call...and it gets uncomfortable. Seriously, why is the adage of change is never easy or comfortable true? In the call we were chatting and Zoe made this excellent point (which I totally brought up in therapy) that the things I mentioned were small, they weren't this big dreams. And in not having this big dreams, I was doing myself a disservice, if the goals are small and easily achievable you don't need to push yourself or really change anything...so it is really a dream? It's more like what's holding you back.

So we went into those big it can't really happen, unrealistic dreams - okay, okay, big and unrealistic to me, Zoe was all this could totally happen. And in her it could totally happen she mentioned this small, easy to do, little daily actions that could help me get there. And still I'm all what, no ways, is this even for real. One of the things that came up was just how much I love the work done by this one research foundation and how there's amazing people there...and wouldn't it be great if I could do that. So guess who included a plan for things to do to find out more about that? Yip. And full disclosure, I haven't followed up on that (I'm still working up the nerve, like I can't just send an e-mail to an academic that's all gushy, I just can't yet) but two of the other things have been happening.

There's something to be said about this coaching thing and dreaming big but specifically. So ow I'm wondering just how big do you dream? Do you pull a me and keep things small because of all sorts of they belong in therapy reasons, or do you dream big but then not go for it? Either way you should totally check out Zoe's mad skillz. 

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