A blog about life - the good, the bad, the people, the books, the games, and coffee.

Friday, 30 October 2015

A quick catch up

My reading mojo has returned with a bang. I'm in the midst of the Old Souls trilogy by Deborah Harkness. I am giving up sleep to read more, and just want to finish, but life won't let me.

I went to a free pilates class last night, and it just isn't for me. It was an easy class. I've been to many classes, and in my peak fitness the class I was attending then kicked my ass. This one was a good stretch session, but not for me.

Keiden has gotten into our number one play school pick :). This means, I can pick up more work, and get to bed a bit earlier.

The heat has been horrid. A fringe was a bad, bad idea for summer. Thank goodness for hairpins.

Today, I'll be donating blood. It'll be the first time since pre pregnancy that I'll do this. I'm so excited to be able to do this again, it is such a small thing to do, that helps others.

Here's an interview with me on SA Mom Blogs.

I'm loving orange nails. It's so bright, and happy, and summer.

#FeesMustFall has just gotten me all over. It so showed so strange beliefs people hold. Whacked out thinking, and a lot of apathy from people I didn't expect. Although my reaction to it has been surprising as well, I hadn't realised just how "political" I am. That said there currently isn't a party for me in SA politics.

Lately Keiden has been calling everything lovely or saying wow.

He is also clearly the kid of gamers. Anything vaguely dice shaped gets held, shook in his cupped hands, rolled , looked at carefully and followed by a yay :).

Meet my friend in my computer will return next week.

Wednesday, 21 October 2015

Stray thoughts

Thirty seems to be the year of life truths for me. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Why not? Does it spark joy? And thoughts on friendship and boundaries.

I've realised that people don't fully understand what privilege is made up of. Case in point my friends who also bring up that they also grew up poor and didn't have a lot. They're missing the reality of being a person of colour. The constant stream of micro aggressions. They're never looked at suspiciously in shops, or treated like they work there when it's clear they don't. Never told you speak so well. Never squeeing with excitement when they realise that there are finally good mainstream tv shows to show their kid that there are people who look like him in media.

Something I don't get are people who just moan for the sake of moaning. Vent away, it heps. Then go do something. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

We attach shame to things to that make us happy. Why? It is ridiculous that we let others perceived conceptions get in our way. So in my small bit to counter that, here's a me truth for you. I read Mills & Boons (and swoons, as I call them). They are light, easy to read with a guaranteed happy ending. Plus they make it easy for me to get back into reading mojo.

Do you have something like that? If you'd like feel free to share :)

Tuesday, 20 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Laverne from Shell Shocked Mummy

Laverne, made me fangirl squee when she mentioned me in a post. I admire her no-holds-barred directness. Not to mention the way in which she shares so openly and willingly.

She is a virual cheerleader, who is quick to call you on your self bullying tactics,  and always happy to find a way to laugh at things.
Hi there, this is my friend Laverne. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
We met via twitter actually, you showed your support for my petition to change the laws surrounding maternity leave and we struck up a conversation.

What is blogging to you?
Blogging can be whatever you decided it to be, As I would consider myself a new blogger I haven’t decided exactly what I would like my platform to look like in 3 years. At thuis stage I don’t want the extra pressure because I am goal orientated and I will do everything in my power to reach that goal and right now I just want blogging to be fun. I have been incredibly lucky that it has been so well received and that it has led me to start lobbying for real change and I am thoroughly grateful for all the support I have received thus far.

Current favourite series, book and game

Empire, I love urban shows that are trendy and fashion forward but that has a little bit of drama and intrigue. I also like Rosewood. Deep down I am still a fashion girl at heart. Book! None, any book that needs reading at this stage better be 2 pages long or have been adapted to a 30 minute show. Game. I don’t have time for any games either, I usually only listen to the TV anyway because I am busy working while it is on.

You and Kennedy 15 years from now on a mommy and daughter adventure. Where, what, how?
I hope to travel with her abroad. I want to show her the world. I want to be able to experience things I have experienced without her again. I hope to show he how to apply makeup correctly and help her pick her outfit for her first date, I hope to be giving her advice on safe sex and she listens, I hope to be helping her pick her matric dress and navigate the first time her heart is broken.

Whose walk-in wardrobe do you want?
Cookie from Empire, Olivia Pope from Scandal. Khloe Kardashian. To name a few

Coffee or tea?
Tea 100%. I have one cup of coffee a day but I love me some tea!

Food or sights when travelling
CARBS are my weakness, practically in any form. The carbier the better, But for right now I am on a Low Carb Diet. So a good soup.

What does a day need to be good for you?
Good morning kisses from my baby and I am golden!

Monday, 19 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Cindy from 3 Kids, 2 Dogs and 1 Old House

Cindy, is a ball of energy. Seriously, she needs to be she has 3 kids, is a partner in a business, the meet up organiser of note, party thrower extraordinaire and she has a successful blog with all the work that entails. 

She is friendly, funny, supportive, a Nik Naks aficionado, and did I mention crafty? Her party throwing skills are amazing, and it all stems from how much she cares. Which I think is just wonderful.

Hi there, this is my friend Cindy. Let's chat.

How did we meet? 
One of our mutual blogging friends oragnised a catch up session while she was in Cape Town and we had lunch at Starlings. It was great even though I was so super nervous before hand!

What is blogging to you? 
A place to keep my thoughts about life.

Current favourite series, book and game
Series, this is hard toss up between Game of Thrones and Vikings but all time series is Dexter. Book - Harry Potter no doubt and no competition. I LOVE Sims. Currently obsessed with Sim City and Sims FreePlay on my phone.

Your party fantasy plan - for any person or celebration.
I've always wanted to do an "all white" party - not in the racist way, as in the decor, the clothing, the food, the everything is white. White origami birds strung up all over the garden (like ALL over), lots of green plants and natural surroundings. Might do it for my 30th actually.

And with such party, and it's unlimted budget, would you still do your crafty add to it?
Yes of course. It's not really a party without some manual labour. I'd probably make all the birds myself. All 5000s of them haha

Coffee or tea?
COFFEE but a midmorning rooibos too.

Food or sights when travelling.
Gosh don't make me choose. Um, the sights. I'm all about the visual.

What does a day need to be good for you?
Laughter, connection and Nik Naks ;)

Sunday, 18 October 2015

Twitter is dead? Really?

Lately, I've noticed more and more people saying that Twitter is dead or becoming more and more mean. And while I agree that it does seem to show the nasty side of humanity more so than the good, it does not need to be that way. I found that changing the way and who I follow has returned my experience of it back to the way that works best for me.

I've basically cut my following list in half. I took the time to check who I followed and interrogated why I follow that account. Some of the accounts were obligated follow backs or brands for competitions. I realised that none of that brought me joy, and that it was contributing to my feelings of not enjoying my time spent on twitter as much. So I dropped those accounts.

I changed how many journalists and news sites I follow, to three or so of each. I only follow three store brands, relevant to my shopping habits. The rest of the accounts I follow are all people I interact with. I then take a look at any one new, and my current list about every two weeks or so to be sure that I am still interacting with them. Interacting isn't limited to chatting, it also includes retweeting them or engaging with a link they shared.

It has made such a difference for me. It might work for you.

How do you work your social media?

Friday, 16 October 2015

Five for today: Bits and bops

I've been doing some major de-cluttering, and today on Marcia's organising blog she has an interview I did for her about it.

This post of hers is a round-up of her konmari posts, and puts so many things better than I could.

I'm attempting to get back into #30days of yoga. Hopefully I'll finish it  this time and not stop after day 8 as I have the other two times I've tried it. I got about halfwayish with the first video, but Keiden wasn't into me not giving him all the attention. So I'll need to figure out a good time to do this. What do you guys do?

90s cheesy pop has been a great help this week. It gets K and I dance partying, because the grumps has been strong in our house this week. Keiden is getting some more teeth :-/.

Two videos for you: one is an amv for Princess Tutu, and the other is because I have been telling everyone "There ain't no party like an SClub party."

Meet my friend in my computer: Cat from Juggling Act of Life

Cat, is another one of those folks I was reading long before we were even thinking of having a kid. She often has these amazing nuggets of parenting wisdom that jut stay with me. One in particular has had a direct affect on the way we view things. 

It was on how kids behave when eating out, she said we teach them how to behave, in all moments, but with eating out we expect the same as at home. And you know, at home there's no allowance for unacceptable behaviour, so why do we tailor eating out to allow for things we wouldn't allow at home?It just stayed with me. So yes, we make allowances for age, but we don't let Keiden do anything when eating out that we wouldn't allow at home.

Cat, is a nature lover of note, takes great photos, has her own business, and always seems to find the bright spot in something. She is not a moaning Myrtle of any form. She parents in such a supportive way, and it is definitely something I try to emulate.

Hi there, this is my friend Cat. Let's chat.

How did we meet? 
Through the blogs - I think. Although it's been a while and I may not remember so well

What is blogging to you? 
A way of keeping memories, of connecting with people, of clearing my mind. I have been blogging for almost 8 years so it is somewhat of a routine too.

Current favourite series, book and game.
 I watch minimal tv - I simply do not have the time (and would rather read). But I do like reality stuff - Masterchef, Braaimaster and even good old Survivor or Amazing Race. I always read more than one book at a time (reading is a great passion) - At the moment I am reading The invention of wings by Sue Monk Kidd and The house on Carnival street  By Debra Rodriguez. I have just finished reading A man called Ove by Fredrik Backman - possibly my book of 2015

A while back you and H went on a protect the rhinos night watch, would you do it again if you could? 
In the blink of an eye. He does these from time to time but as we have no support system to look after the kids I very seldom join him.

If you could pack it all up and leave the city, where would you go?
Somewhere where the bush and the sea meets. I adore both - in fact our whole family does. Nothern KZN or Eastern Cape.

Coffee or tea?
I am a total coffee addict but a good cup of tea now and again is lovely.

Food or sights when travelling?
Sights - I am all about experiences. Yes, a great plate of food may also be an experience but leave me the choice of a game drive or a fancy dinner - the game drive will always win

What does a day need to be good for you?
No bad surprises - the good usual routine without any "I need x by tomorrows".

Thursday, 15 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Briget from Because I Can

Briget, is all kinds of fun. She's funny, and willing to try most things once. I love how she finds a way to be interested in what her boys are interested in (anime and LANing come to mind), even if it is just to be sure she knows when to pre-empt a chat. She finds a way to inject a sense of fun and excitement in what she does. Tutus and nail art are her thing, even more so when you add pink to it.

With her you know you'll always land up having a great time no matter what you do - especially if you through karaoke into the mix ;).
Hi there, this is my friend Briget. Let's us chat.

How did we meet?
Ooh, that was such a looong time ago. I think it was officially via a durban tweetup, or perhaps it was a 27dinner. The mind is rusty these days. Hahaha.

What is blogging to you?
It is a creative outlet. I get to say a bunch of random things and then move on. I very seldom ever give anything a second thought once it is written down. I also enjoy the social engagement of strangers and friends alike. A way to connect with the world without having to put on a bra.

Sharing is my third name, with my blog being the catalyst for all to read and laugh at me as I try hopscotch the madness of life, love and everything inbetween.

Current favourite series, book and game
I have a huge bunch of favourite series, Orphan Black is right at the top next to Doctor Who!! I don’t play too many games except of course my facebook game criminal case.. which gets me through the boring moments while I wait for stuff to process/upload/respond. And reading currently is down to instruction manuals as I try figure everything out that the planet throws at me!
Stamping, stickers or free handing nail art?
Free hand.. I love LOVE freehand nail art. As well as freehand acrylic being my absolute favourite. I am not soo great at it yet, but I will keep trying until I get better. J

Your two favourite nail art designs ever.
My own? My van Gogh I did for the #31DC2015 and my Doctor Who nails I did a little while back for the #ppsanailchallenge.

Coffee or tea?
Coffee by the litre.. black, strong and bitter. Like the Telkom dude that refuses to fix my dsl line.

Food or sights when travelling
Yes, I am always on the lookout for food when travelling, how did you know?

What does a day need to be good for you?
It needs to be uninterrupted, with chocolate just placed discreetly in front of me when I need it and James Blunt serenading me while I am getting a footrub.

Wednesday, 14 October 2015

Five for today: The state of me

It turns out that sugar makes me really grumpy, and annoyed with everything really quickly. I've slid a little off the sugar free way for me, but from tomorrow that'll be something I get back on.

I've realised that for some odd reason I don't talk about gaming much here. Which is really strange as it is a big part of my life.

I'm so incredibly mean to myself, which makes it easy to just accept meanness from someone else. It so needs to change, but I know it'll take time.

Konmari is the business, and I so need to tell you guys more.

Anyone want to be my drink more water, stay away from sugar and do some exercise buddy? I find it easier to do things when I'm held accountable in some form.                                                                

Meet my friend in my computer: Zoe from Born Geek

Zoe, is a gaming geek of note. She even writes about them for a living. Currently, in the process of baking her daughter, Harley, she's sharing her thoughts and experiences on her blog. I think that she's incredibly brave, in a post she shared a pic of her in a bikini. Folks, I couldn't do that pre Keiden, let alone while pregnant or now. 

I love how she's a great gaming woman, navigating a space that is incredibly hostile to women, that she is considering ways in which she can be a great parent while still growing as a person. She is lovely, friendly and happy to chat about things geek in its various forms.

Hi there, this is my friend Zoe. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
I’m not actually too sure. In a way, it feels like you fell out of the twitter-verse when I needed to meet you. You had awesome advise and feedback on what I was going through. Now I stalk you on twitter and hope to one day get to meet in person.

What is blogging to me?
I always used to write in a diary, but the last few years I’ve stopped doing it as frequently. With a job that included writing lots of words including my opinions every day, it seemed like there wasn’t really a need. However, once I announced to the world that I was pregnant, I realized that I actually had a whole lot more going on in my head. Blogging is a way for me to get those thoughts out of my skull, to think my way through things and find the answers that I already know. Plus, since starting my blog, I have found so many other wonderful women with amazing blogs; it has made me realize that what I’m going through isn’t always so weird, and there are a myriad ways through this.

Favorite series, book and game.
Geez, that’s a tough one. I’ve just finished binging on Blacklist, which was great, but I also avidly follow Doctor Who, Suits and Homeland. Plus, I’ve just started watching How to get away with Murder. Netflix and I are very close.

At the moment I’m reading my way through the Neil Gaiman humble bundle, filled with all sorts of random short stories, speeches and other tidbits from him. He’s one of my favorite authors, so it’s been an absolute joy reading words of his that I haven’t already experienced.
As for the game, at the moment I’m between titles, but I’m really amped for Assassin’s Creed Syndicate, and I’m planning to finally get to sink my teeth into The Witcher 3 during maternity leave.

Warrior, Rogue or Mage?
Rogue, all the time. Opportunity to stab people, or use a bow and snipe them? Sign me up!
PC or console?
I generally prefer console gaming, just because I love lying on the couch for hours and playing games with a controller in my hand. I know I can replicate that on PC, but it’s just not the same.

Museum or sport arena?
Museum, without a doubt. Nothing quite like spending an afternoon wandering around, losing yourself in some incredible art or architecture.
Food or sights when travelling?
Can’t I have both?? I suppose I'm more about the sights seeing as interesting cuisines often travel to other cities and can be experienced elsewhere. But I love the combination of both, immersing myself in the local experience complete with town squares and quirky little hideaways. I try to avoid touristy destinations and like to eat where the locals go.

What does a day need to be good for you?
A good night’s sleep, a solid day of work and an evening spent relaxing with my husband and sometimes some close friends, too. Any day with sushi, coffee and bacon are immediately better for it, and if I get to spend a few hours lost in an incredible book/series/game, that instantly makes me beyond happy.

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Noelle from Pfangirl Through the Looking Glass

Noelle, is such a full on nerd for all things that move her. When I say nerd I mean, utterly passionate and knowledgeable about her interests. If she doesn't know something about movies - the genres, tropes, way it is put together it's not worth knowing. The same for comics, travel and Lara Croft. She throws great get braais, and is a lot of fun to go wine tasting with.

I'm in awe of her unashamed joy in what she loves. It's something we could all do with a dose of.

Hi, this is my friend Noelle. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
You know, it's been so long ago now, that I can't really remember the details other than it was through a shared interest in gaming of all types. The first time I met you face to face was at a board gaming event held in Durban. We played Dominion, and you and Jerall impressed with your mad skills;)

What is blogging to you?
For me, blogging a written record of my thoughts in regards to a piece of pop culture. I can never beat big sites for reporting the news, but I hope I can contribute meaningful commentary on a geeky topic. I'm not one of those bloggers who treats the space like an online diary, chronicling my everyday. 

Current favourite series, book and game
Most recent TV series fave is Agent Carter.
Favourite game is the mobile puzzler Lara Croft: GO (I don't own any consoles or a heavy-duty gaming PC at the moment).
As for books, I haven't touched novels for a while, so I'm going to go with comic series Rat Queens, and Sunstone

What's has more of an impact the score or the story of a movie or game?
Well, it does depend on the game, but I'm going to say something heretical as a writer and admit that typically a good score will linger longer in my mind than the story. The same cannot be said for great characters, however. I tend to think of them more fondly than I ever do the central narrative.

Which two Lara's are you?
I think personality-wise I am closer to 2013 Reboot Lara in that I am quieter and more studious. Reboot Lara's greatest strength is her resilience - her drive to get back up and keep going - and I think I share that with her, at least to a certain extent. She's not the strongest, biggest or fastest by far, but she succeeds because of her strength of will. She continues when others have long since given up.

This said, Reboot Lara's life is a constant struggle, and a quite joyless affair. Classic Lara may be more flamboyant, but she does appreciate her creature comforts. And that's something I can totally get behind.
Coffee or tea?
These days, I'd say coffee, because it's become such an integral part of my "start the day" morning ritual. Tea is perfect for a late afternoon pick-me-up though.

Food or sights when travelling
I actually can't choose between these two, as they are my primary pursuits when travelling. 

What does a day need to be good for you?
A good day for me always feels like I've managed to strike a good life balance between the things that need to be done (work, chores, exercise, etc) and things that I want to do (some TV-watching downtime; writing or any other form of creative expression). All work and no play makes this Jill a very antsy, despondent girl.

Monday, 12 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: MeeA from MamaMeeA

MeeA, is such a great person. She's quick to call me on my silly, and to provide advice. We're both avid cheerleaders of each other - even though I don't get this thing called running ;). She's my favourite birthday twin, someone who just seems to "get" me, and I've recently realised is my online big sister. It seems having an older sibling is great, my siblings owe me presents.

Mostly, she's great, and I'm glad to have someone around to give me another viewpoint on things.

Hi there, this is my friend MeeA. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
I believe we met on Twitter. Or was it Blogger? Either way, we've been online friends for a long time. :)

What is blogging to you?
I started blogging before I even knew that the words "blog" or "blogging" existed. I set up my first online journal on LiveJournal back in 2004 and never looked back. I never imagined anyone out there would read what I wrote or that I would eventually meet other bloggers in person or that many of those bloggers would become real life friends. To me, blogging was a place to record my thoughts and experiences, to blow off steam, put some distance between myself and my thoughts and emotions when needed, and generally just to feel important in my own little corner of the universe. It was my writing class, my silent agony aunt, my personal VIP room. In time, I've found myself censoring myself more and more and, at the moment, I'm not sure exactly what I feel about my blog. It's as if I can't seem to allow myself the freedom to write what I'm thinking but I can't live with myself if I don't, either. I'm trying to find the balance I need to make it work...

Current favourite series, book and game
Series: I haven't watched any TV for a while now - not since we got to the end of Season 5 of Game of Thrones. So I'm waiting anxiously for Season 6, which I'm sure will keep me just as enthralled. I'm not usually a fan of whatever's the flavour of the moment, so it's possible that I'm loving GOT as much as I am, simply because it's about the only thing I've really watched in ages. Also, I think Peter Dinklage is beyond awesome.

Book: Again, I don't get to read many books, for various reasons, chief of which are money and time. In the past year, however, I devoured everything by Stuart McBride that I could lay my hands on, as well as all of Margie Orford' Clare Hart books. The only one I'm missing is Water Music, which was available for free on iTunes everywhere but in South Africa earlier this year, which I thought was disgusting. Otherwise, I read whatever free Kindle or other ebooks I can find that grab me within the first few pages.
Game: I don't do video games. There, I said it. The last time I played a video or computer game was in 2001, when David and I spent about a month playing Death Rally non stop on my ancient PC. Before then, I used to enjoy playing various LARP games, had my own Vampire deck and knew and followed lots of Magic The Gathering players on campus at varsity.
Now, a game means fantasy play with my 5 year-old, which generally entails listening to and agreeing with whatever long and complicated tale he's creating at any given time. I love that I get to watch him explore his creativity and expand his (already impressive) vocabulary, and that I get to participate in his imaginary worlds. I can't wait to see where all of his big ideas take him as he grows up!

Ikea or @home?
I've spent many hours browsing @home and wishing I could shop there but I find their prices to be prohibitive. A lot of the furniture I have is from IKEA as it's the go-to for affordable home furnishings in Dubai, where we lived from 2004 to 2007. So I'd have to say IKEA, by default.

Gluten free treat or all out bad for you fes?
I'd love to say I'd go for the GF treat but the truth is I have not only fallen off the wagon but I've done it so many times, I'm not sure they'll let me back on even if I do manage to catch up with it. Right now, I ache for baked cheesecake and I've already bought the (gluten free) chocolate biscuits, cream cheese and other things needed to bake one sometime this week. I'm going to eat that cake like a cake boss! And I might even let my husband and kids have a taste...

Coffee or tea?
For a while, I was on a very healthy rooibos tea kick. But now I have at least one cup of coffee a day. I stick to that, mostly but sometimes I'll have a second or third cup of coffee. I really should be drinking more water, though.

Food or sights when travelling
Both. I LOVE to eat and there's nothing that excites me more than GOING SOMEWHERE NEW TO EAT! Also, I tend to suffer from random blood sugar dips, so it's important for me to eat well when travelling. Don't want to have a sudden fainting spell in the middle of someplace where I don't know anyone or can't speak the language. Also, I believe that the food is often an important part of the sights in a new or foreign place.

What does a day need to be good for you?
My best days are the ones on which I feel like I've accomplished something, but am not exhausted by 8pm. And when things haven't descended into total chaos at home, with everything being messy and chaotic. To be honest, I don't really know. I'm much more of a bigger picture type person than a day by day one, so in order for me to feel good, I think there needs to be a general trend of well-being and moving on up in the world. That and feeling connected to and validated by people whose opinions matter to me.

Sunday, 11 October 2015

Friday, 9 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Zayaan from Surviving the Madness

Zayaan, is the grown-up I'd like to be. She is unapologetic about enjoying what she enjoys. Insecurity is not something that lives in her space. She jumps into all that she does with enthusiasm - can't find what she wants to get her son for his birthday, no problem she'll just make it.

I'm glad to have her on the other side of whatsapp to squee with about things.

Hi there, this is my friend Zayaan. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
We met at a Cape Town Blogger meet up, hosted by the wonderful Cindy Alfino. You sat opposite me with your cutie pie Keidan and we've been friends ever since.

What is blogging to you?
It's two-fold for me. Firstly it's for documenting these early years of my son's life, both for me and for family who don't get to see him often.

Then it's also about connecting with people, especially other moms. Parenting is hard! And it's cool to share experiences with other parents who might be going through the same thing or getting advice from others who've been through the trenches.

And like you say, you make friends along the way. I have made genuine and real life actual friends via blogging and social media.

Current favourite series, book and game
Series: Doctor Who
Book: This is a difficult and rude question...um, um... er... I'm going to go with The Dragonriders of Pern for now.
Game: Always World of Warcraft. I always go back no matter how many breaks I take. Although I'm pretty in love with Child of Light too. It's a beautiful game.

Warrior, rogue or mage?

Coffee or tea?
Always start the day with coffee. Afternoon tea (I'm a traditionalist it seems) and a cup of tea at night. Sometimes.

Food or sights when travelling
Sights. Whenever we travel anywhere it's really hard to find Halaal food so it's been all about the sights so far. I'm a history buff too, so I like seeing old places and experiencing new sights and sounds. But when we go to Malaysia one day it's going to be all about the food! Especially the giant prawns!!

What does a day need to be good for you?
Exchanging funny Tumblr posts with Robi (my bestie and other half), good music and cuddles with my boys.

Thursday, 8 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Laura from Harassed Mom

Laura, is another one of those folk who probably doesn't need an introduction. Not only does she run her own blog Harassed Mom, she also works with Heather as the duo behind SA Mom Blogs.

Laura is an incredibly hard working, busy, brave, organised, crafty, and generous person in her time and deeds. She often gives me things to ponder when it comes to parenting as your kids get older - a lot of which I tuck away for when K gets to that age.

I'm not sure how I came to be reading her blog, at the time I started she was a mom to two (now four) and babies weren't even a thought for me. And then she was pregnant with Emma the same time as I was pregnant with Keiden. Guess who became a great go to pregnancy and baby source for me ;).

Hi there, this is my friend Laura. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
I can’t really remember if it was via your blog or twitter but either way it was online :).

What is blogging to you? It is part of who I am. It is a safe place for me, somewhere I can share my stories, connect with people and feel like I matter.

Current favourite series, book and game
All my shows have just started again and I am very excited – I love Scandal, Criminal Minds, Suits, How To Get Away With Murder. I watch them while I work. Big Bang is also a favourite. I don’t really play games – not sure the Boov game counts and I struggle to get reading in. Usually when I have time I just want to sit and do nothing.

Favourite craft/craft trick?
I love scrapbooking. I would scrapbook all day if I could. I really loved painting glass jars recently. If I had more paint I would have painted all the glass jars in the house.

All expenses paid family trip or romantic weekend away for you and David? And where?
Gosh that’s a hard one. David and I are in desperate need of an extended time out so a weekend away would be perfect but an all expense holiday for our large family would be much appreciated (and needed). Where would we go? I would take D to the bush somewhere – if was all paid for one of the fancy pants lodges in the Timbavati. If it was a family holiday then somewhere near the beach but not one of the busy ones.

Coffee or tea?
Coffee! All the coffee! :)

Food or sights when travelling
Depends where I am. I love food, it may possibly be my love language. But I love sights as well.

What does a day need to be good for you?
Calm! When everything runs smoothly. I feel like my super power is managing bumps in the road, last minute changes that when it all runs well I feel like I am a super hero.

Wednesday, 7 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Cath from sea.ess.em.jay

Cath plus words equals magic.

She is quietly kind,  she always has the right words, is utterly supportive, and does things that people say should be done, but they don't. When we were still in Durban, and Megan was in Jhb about to have Emma she put a package together for her. Yes, some of us gave some presents, but that was all Cath. She parents in a way that I aspire too - a  lot of the moms with older kids I'll introduce you to, do that. I've just realised that when I tell K to acknowledge those who greet him, it is a line I heard her tell Cam, when we bumped into them years ago. Good parenting lines it seems, just stay with you.
Hi there, this is my friend Cath. Let's chat

How did we meet?
​Online, but then in real life too. I blame-thank Twitter and blogging for everything.​

What is blogging to you?
​The way I feel about it has changed as it's become more and more mainstream (read: an advertising platform). I read less blogs than I used, I write fewer posts than I used to.. BUT, there's still a wealth of community and reality out there. It still exists, although it's populated by far more people nowadays. ​
Current favourite series, book and game
​Silicon Valley; The Mumsnet Rules and Skylanders Superchargers. ​
Music that moves you. Feel free to link, because I know you love a good music video ;)
​haha. Okay, this is hard. Right now though, it's this, made by my dear friend in the computer Dylan: http://three-cents.com/streaming-treehouse/
You and Cam, 10 years from now on a mom and daughter adventure. What, where, how?
​ Paris. ​
Coffee or tea?
​Coffee in the mornings, tea after lunch. ​
Food or sights when travelling
Both, please. ​
What does a day need to be good for you?
​I need to have achieved something, even if that achievement was ​just getting out of my pyjamas. haha. No, but seriously, it's that moment where I sit down at the diningroom table to eat dinner with my family, and I look at them. If a day has that moment in it, it's a beautiful day.

Tuesday, 6 October 2015

For a moment there I forgot something important

That this is my space, so I can do what I like with it.

I'm someone who enjoys structure and routine. Tell me the way to follow something and I will, until I make it my own. So even though I'm not a fancy pants blogger there are some rules I've followed. The one most pertinent her is the one where you post a new part of a series once a week.

There's been the TED Thursdays, Word Wednesdays and Five for Friday. And for the most part it's worked. I've enjoyed, and it's allowed me to take full advantage of must get all the blog posts done moments. But right now, it's not working for me. And I love why it's not working.

I rather nervously asked some folks to take part in my friends in my computer thing, as a way to help me complete Quest 500. And the yes responses, and the answers to the questions have just made me feel all warm and fluffy.

As some friends pointed out, I wouldn't get to call these folks my friends in my computer if they said no. They're right. But you try convincing the insecure I'm a weirdo side of myself to not freak out every time I got a yes. Not happening.

Long story short, I am feeling all the warm and fluffy from know such great people that I figured why do one a week. This is my space, I do what I like with it.

And as such expect one of those for every day I have an answer for. Well except weekends, I figure this are great my 10 minutes to myself in the morning - or tea time or lunch time or whenever you read - reads. 

There will be other posts. After all I'm on Quest 500, but they'll happen when they happen. Some days might have two posts or more, others none. But there will be posts happening.

Things they don't tell you in the "So you've decided to have kids" brochure

That your social life gives way to theirs. There's a pinotage day happening this Saturday, but we can't go because of kiddie birthday parties.

The sick cycle is real. It all starts with an innocent little sniffle, that as it moves from family member to family member it becomes less innocent. And once the sniffle has done it's rounds, there.is.something.new.

There will be a new family head. And it won't be the person/s making the bucks.

You will question, and requestion every decision you make for your kid...forever.

That your little person will be responsible for breaking your heart into a million little pieces, and then rebuilding it.

A well timed hug, kiss or "I wuv you" will make the world a better place. Every time without fail.

You will rediscover joy in watching your child fall in love with what you love. The way Keiden's eye's light up when he sees books - magic.

That it'll be hard, challenging, have you questioning your sanity, but utterly worth it with each smile, laugh, hug, kiss, cuddle, and I wuv you.

Monday, 5 October 2015

Meet my friend in my computer: Mandy from Pregnant in Cape Town & Ever After

Do I even need to do an introduction bit for Mandy? Her blog is the business and it seems that just like her, its got many fans.

Mandy, is warm, caring, friendly, open, happy to chat, incredibly hard working, and just all around great. Her warmth and the fact that she'll listen to you intently oozes out of her. I'm convinced that's why she always has the oddest how you know her stories - she picks up good people the way some of us gain weight just looking at cake.


Hi there, this is my friend Mandy. Let's chat.

How did we meet?
I twitter stalked you when we were pregnant because our bubbas were due a week apart and then I discovered we were originally due to have them in the same hospital.

Once Special K was born you kept me sane through the last of my pregnancy on Whatsapp and then when Charly was 2 months old we met in person for the first time. It was her first public appearance :)
K looks massive because of how I'm holding him
What is blogging to you? 
It is my own space on the Internet. I think I largely found my power in myself through blogging. Realising I had the ability to help and support people all over the world by just sharing and being there, changed my view of myself. 

Although it has evolved and grown, I still see it in that way - growing my audience, for me, is all about being able to reach and support more people. I also love that I can now share other people's stories and help people promote and grow their small businesses.

And then there's the fact that it had given me a space to document my entire journey through my pregnancy and growing with my baby girl that I will be able to return to forever. There's something precious to me in that.

And the people. There are no words for how much I value the relationships and friendships I have formed through my blog.

Current favourite series, book and game: 
Leaving Time, Jodi Picoult.
Fable 2 - nothing before or after has had the same hold on me.

Browncoat or Castillion ? Mal or Castle?
I cannot choose. Firefly is hugely symbolic in my relationship with my husband, to the point that we rewatch huge chunks of it every New Year's Eve :) We have also planned to name any little boy we have Nathan, so yeah...
And I think the last statement may make clear that we love Castle too. It's a show I never miss.

Coffee or tea?
Coffee. All. The. Coffee. But anyone who loves real coffee will hate me because I only like Nescafé, I don't like it strong and I like it with loads of milk

Food or sights when travelling?
Preferably both. I have strong attachments to things I have read extensively about or that have been imprinted in my mind by favourite series or movies, so sights hold huge sentimental space in my heart. While I wouldn't travel somewhere for the food specifically; I have excluded places because I know I won't eat the local food.

What does a day need to be good for you?
Ideally it needs to start 7am, anything earlier and I really struggle. I need hubby and I to be in a good loving space when he leaves for work and when we go to sleep. I need Charly to be happy and to have at least one hour quiet with her. I need to accomplish one big work goal a day and be on top of my admin across all my businesses.

Sunday, 4 October 2015

Friends in our computers

One of the great things about blogging is that it introduces you to some amazing people. Folks who shape you - your personhood, motherhood and all the bits in between - just with the magic they weave with their words.

If you're lucky, those people are happy to respond to your comment on Twitter. Even luckier you chat with them there, send messages, then e-mails and whatsapps. And then, when luck is shining extra brightly on you they even live in the same city as you, and you get to meet. Where wonder of wonders they're just as lovely and friendly when you chatted through screens.

Those people, those friends in our computers, the ones who get some parts of you that the friends you meet irl first don't get straight away...are the ones I'll be introducing to you.

Over the next few weeks, once a week I'll introduce you to a friend in my computer. All these ladies are lovely, I fangirl squee about some of their work. Some I've meet outside of the comfort of our screens, others not. But not one of them hasn't in some way shaped my story.

I hope you enjoy meeting them.


Saturday, 3 October 2015

Friday, 2 October 2015

Five for Friday: Book Edition

Keiden's current favourite book. We've had to take it out from the library three times already, and renew it each time. He loves this book so much, and is constantly wanting us to read it to him. He goes around saying opity opity all the time - all the animals go in a way that ends in a ity [lipity-lopity, bibity-bobity etc]. I'm trying to track a copy down for home, hopefully it can be a Christmas gift.
Another favourite book that we've had to take out and renew a few times. He loves the actions - the book has some you can do when singing  it :).

We got sent a Kids Book Club bag to try out. It includes a cute bag, 2 magazines for the parent and 2 books for the little.

We both love this bag. It's become our new library bag. When we're not using it to go to the library, K loves walking around with it and moving his blocks around in it.

He still likes reading multiple books at the same time :).

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