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Tuesday, 25 December 2018

Thursday, 13 December 2018

How big do you dream?

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In a recent chat with Zoe  - she of the amazing powers to create plans of action and get to the heart of the matter - we hit upon some uncomfortable points for me, they reminded me of therapy. And then it hit me, this is what life coaching is about. I was having a coaching session with Zoe, and while the experience on the surface of it seems easy, let me tell you it's not.

It starts off easily enough - your friend is moving into the coaching sphere and wants to make sure her process works. You go, yeah I have no idea about anything in my life anymore, let's give this a whirl. You get a short questionnaire, that you're told not to spend longer than five minutes on answering the few questions on. You see the questionnaire and okay it's easy-ish, you can do this....but why do I need to think about these things.Eventually, you answer the questions and send them back...and start the fun time of scheduling your half an hour call - I totally went for the voice call option, video call is not my friend.

And then you have the call...and it gets uncomfortable. Seriously, why is the adage of change is never easy or comfortable true? In the call we were chatting and Zoe made this excellent point (which I totally brought up in therapy) that the things I mentioned were small, they weren't this big dreams. And in not having this big dreams, I was doing myself a disservice, if the goals are small and easily achievable you don't need to push yourself or really change anything...so it is really a dream? It's more like what's holding you back.

So we went into those big it can't really happen, unrealistic dreams - okay, okay, big and unrealistic to me, Zoe was all this could totally happen. And in her it could totally happen she mentioned this small, easy to do, little daily actions that could help me get there. And still I'm all what, no ways, is this even for real. One of the things that came up was just how much I love the work done by this one research foundation and how there's amazing people there...and wouldn't it be great if I could do that. So guess who included a plan for things to do to find out more about that? Yip. And full disclosure, I haven't followed up on that (I'm still working up the nerve, like I can't just send an e-mail to an academic that's all gushy, I just can't yet) but two of the other things have been happening.

There's something to be said about this coaching thing and dreaming big but specifically. So ow I'm wondering just how big do you dream? Do you pull a me and keep things small because of all sorts of they belong in therapy reasons, or do you dream big but then not go for it? Either way you should totally check out Zoe's mad skillz. 

Friday, 23 November 2018

Five for Friday

Black Friday is ridiculous...it's the worst thing imported from the US to the rest of the world. At least with it happening today, the ads will end.

I was fiddling with some settings on Twitter, and got my account frozen two or so weeks ago. In order to get my account back I need to send them an image of my ID...so that's not going to happen, and I don't feel like starting a new account so basically no more Twitter for me. And so far it's been a bit odd, but I've not missed it. In terms of keeping up on news and other stuff, it's not been an issue because I've got newsletters. And on the plus side no more mindless scrolling - although I may have replaced that with Goodreads scrolling -_-

This is pretty interesting:

I recently finished reading Hunger by Roxane Gay. It's a contemplative read, that reads really quickly. And has me pondering so much about how I look at my body, and we are constructed into certain views of what makes a body.

And some Keiden news - he is being a goose, that is all :p

Wednesday, 21 November 2018

Pause for joy

I used to do this thing I called a daily happy...and then someone who was a good friend said something really cruel about it. And you guessed it I stopped doing it. But lately there have been a few things I've come across that reminded me that the daily happy was a good thing for me, and my family. So two days ago we started it again at supper - and with my sharing it with folks via whatsapp. Only this time I've amended it to add talking about something that wasn't so good in your day - we all need to work on our emotional vocab. 

It's also helping K get that having a sad moment is okay...he's had a lot of just feeling down moments lately, and taking stock of what's good and what's adding to the down moment is a good thing for him to start learning. He loves the happy part, and will list many things and ask what's all our things.

For some more reasons to add to your pausing for joy/gratitude check out this short Vlogbrothers video

And on the local front Nikki wrote a great post about it too.

Thursday, 1 November 2018

Book Blitz: Hex Marks the Spot by Ani Gonzalez

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Ollo folks, it's another in support of my reading habit posts :p This one has a review, and really you need to check out the Banshee Creek books...they're a great mix of paranormal cozy mystery and romance. Which made my involvement with the book blitz/tour for this book a given.

This is my stop during the book blitz for Hex Marks The Spot by Ani Gonzalez. This book blitz is organized by Lola's Blog Tours. The book blitz runs from 29 October till 4 November. See the tour schedule here.

Hex Marks The SpotHex Marks The Spot (Drop Dead Witchy #1)
By Ani Gonzalez
Genre: Urban Fantasy
Age category: New Adult, Adult
Release Date: 21 October 2018

Going to Hell is easy. Going back home is a different story.

They say you can never go back. I wish that was the case.

Returning home is complicated when you’re a necromancer and your hometown is the Most Haunted in America. It doesn’t help that your pet hellhound chihuahua thinks the place is a dump, and it gets worse when your high school crush is still there and still dead sexy. Literally, as he’s now a ghost.

Oh, and did I mention that I have to save the world? I tell you, going to Hell is easy.


4 Stars of awesome :D

I really enjoyed the Banshee Creek series, and this is a great continuation of that world. And there's some sparks of romantic interest :p

As in Claire's show, Pookie is the star of it all. And while the mystery is interesting enough, the real enjoyment of this read for me came with all the little details of folks meet in other stories being given more depth. I'm certainly looking at the PRoVE folks a lot differently thanks to this read. All in all this read hits a sweet spot of blending the familiar with new so that anyone new to the Banshee Creek world won't feel like they're missing any needed details.


You can find Hex Marks The Spot on Goodreads

You can buy Hex Marks The Spot here on Amazon

Ani GonzalezAbout the Author:
I'm a USA Today bestselling author of paranormal romantic comedy and cozy mystery (whew, that's a mouthful!) set in Banshee Creek, Virginia, The Most Haunted Town in the USA. My books feature feisty, irrepressible heroines dealing with a host of paranormal critters (ghosts, cryptids, pagan gods...the sky's the limit) and mysteries. They find love and laughter (and sometimes corpses) along the way, and readers get to follow them every step of the way.

I love quirky towns with spooky stories, and, thanks to my books, I get to "live" in one year-around. In real life I live in a Virginia suburb (which is sadly lacking in ghosts) with my husband, three children, two cats, and one adorable dog.

You can find and contact Ani Gonzalez here:
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Wednesday, 31 October 2018

Book Blitz: The Second Chance by Catherine Mann

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Ollo folks, this is one of those posts of things I do to support my reading habit :p

This one is a book blitz for The Second Chance by Catherine Mann. This book blitz is organized by Lola's Blog Tours. The book blitz runs from 29 October till 11 November. See the tour schedule here.

The Second ChanceThe Second Chance (Alaskan Oil Barons #5)
By Catherine Mann
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Age category: Adult
Release Date: November 1, 2018

She can’t remember the last five years…

Or the man who says he’s her husband.

Chuck Mikkelson knows Shana doesn’t remember him…or that she wanted a divorce. But now she’s back in his home, and he vows to save their union at all costs. This may be the only second chance he has to win back his wife. Will their rekindled passion be enough to convince her to stay when her memory returns?

You can find The Second Chance on Goodreads

You can buy The Second Chance here:
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Catherine MannAbout the Author:
USA Today bestseller Catherine Mann writes contemporary romance for Harlequin, Tule, Sourcebooks and Berkley. With over seventy-five books released in more than twenty countries, she has won a RITA Award, the Romantic Times Magazine Reviewer’s Choice Award, and the Bookseller’s Best Award. She’s also celebrated six RITA finals, an RT Reviewer’s Award finalist, three Maggie Award of Excellence finals and a Bookseller’s Best win. After years moving around the country bringing up four children, Catherine has settled in her home state of South Carolina. The nest didn’t stay empty long though as she is active in animal rescue. Catherine enjoys hearing from her readers and can be found online frequently on Facebook. She can also be reached via mail at: P.O. Box 291023, Columbia, SC 29229. (For a free bookmark, send a self addressed stamped envelope.)

You can find and contact Catherine Mann here:
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- Facebook
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- Goodreads
- Amazon
- Instagram
- Pinterest

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Snowbound with a sexy stranger…will sharing his bed destroy her plans or lead to forever?


Friday, 26 October 2018

Five for Friday

Hi there folks, *awkwardly waves*

Mostly this is a post before some book related stuff pops up again. It's something I need to do for me to not feel that this is my space to just drop my reading habit support book things :p

  • Emma Approved is back :D
  • My kid is just amazing - he's wanted to donate all his things for those from the Khayelitsha fires. I'm just having all the proud parent feelings about it.
  • Jerall is submitting his MA thesis next week.
  • I'm having moments of ugh, I don't have a plan for next year yet. It is a very strange place to occupy.
  • And when I've gotten a turn and some free moments this game has been for me. The review video below is pretty good...especially the last few minutes :p

Tuesday, 24 July 2018

Friday, 25 May 2018

Hi There

Hiya folks,

Lately it seems that my posts tend towards the catch-up variety...and it's okay. Here we are life keeps on ticking away, and we're nearly half way though 2018 0_0

Part of the reason why I've not been blogging as much as I would have liked to is pretty simply because I over extended myself this semester. Yip, I look at the year in terms of the first and second semester - the first one started about end Jan and is going on till the start of July when exams end. With teaching classes ending a week ago it feels like I can finally breathe. I'm definitely doing less next semester. Over extension is a real problem - I hope you don't end up doing the same to yourself. At it's worst I was having crying jags because I went to go sleep instead of keeping on pushing. Yip, not exactly the best thing. But it's better now, so that's something.

Onto the lighter things we go.

Keiden is being a busy, silly goose as ever :p He is making massive strides at swimming, and swimming on his own - with the pool noodle under his arms. He also went on his first flight, train ride and hotel stay in April. We went with Jerall on a Jhb work trip - bubble baths and showers were had :D Keiden was such a champ, the flight was just the right length for him. Bonus in that he is a much better flier than I am; I need meds and he doesn't. He still very excitedly talks about it, and is looking forward to our visit to PE to see his grandparents.

We've recently made the connection that Keiden is highly empathetic. A few things about him now makes a lot more sense to me. Now the trick is to work with it and use it to better understand and do what's best for him. Right now it means being more aware when watching shows with him, and less having him watching his lego shows without us.

Jerall is carrying on as his usual self, but has also taken on some more things. We're still figuring out that juggle as well as we can, but it should be more fixed in the next few weeks. This grown-up business is tough, and I'm so glad to have him to deal with it with me.

I'm going to end this post with asking how are you, and sharing some music videos that have just been on constant loop for me.

Ps. Janelle Monae is BOSS!

Wednesday, 2 May 2018

Wednesday, 25 April 2018

Tuesday, 24 April 2018

Book Blitz: The Nerdy Necromancer

Hiya folks,

It's one of those posts I do to support my reading habit :p Not to forget that I do have this book in my TBR pile, plus I'm on a bit of a paranormal romance kick right now. So take a look, and enter the tour giveaway if that's your thing :)

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The Nerdy NecromancerThe Nerdy Necromancer (The Deadicated Matchmaker #1)
By S.E. Babin
Helen Reaper has a weird relationship with the dead. As in she can bring anyone or anything back to life, so she’s constantly bombarded by people begging her to restore their loved ones, their pet fish, that cute girl who fell off a building while taking a selfie. Super. Annoying. So Helen becomes a necessary introvert and a homebody, choosing to absorb herself in books instead of real life.

The Deadication Dating Agency comes to her this time in the form of a mysterious letter and a cute little puppy.

They know someone who’s already dead who won’t mind her talent one little bit. Can a woman who raises the dead find a love that stays alive?

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Thursday, 12 April 2018

Book Review: After All by Laurie Winter

After AllAfter All (Warriors of the Heart #3)
by Laurie Winter
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Age category: Adult
Release Date: April 18, 2018

Two years after lifesaving surgery left her infertile, Molly Hernandez is running full steam toward her goal of becoming a DEA Special Agent. She won’t be distracted by falling in love with an Army veteran who’s focused on settling down and making babies.

Drew Atwater delayed marriage and family until his Army career ended. Now, he has a one-year plan to find the woman of his dreams. Unfortunately, the only woman he wants is a spirited cop determined to leave their peaceful town.

While working with troubled teens, Molly and Drew discover they make a powerful team, but their opposing goals threaten to pull them miles apart. Can the power of unselfish love prove their future together will surpass any dream they could accomplish alone?

What I thought

This was a mostly interesting read, but it's not quite a 4 star read for me.

The usual "they just don't understand why the other doesn't get it" trope was given a variation on it by neither fully opening up, and being equally stubborn. It did though annoy me that Drew just wouldn't get a clue and leave Molly be. Well actually, Drew annoyed me he just wouldn't let Molly be, and he even drew in other woman when it was clear as day that he needed time to process the situation.

I do think that Molly's infertility was handled well, especially her interactions with her friends. Her desire to be supportive of her friends and respectful of her feelings, was well done. I must admit I thought things would go a certain way, when she was helping the teen. And it was great that it didn't.

*I'm a lucky fish and got an ARC of this read*

Thursday, 5 April 2018

Book Review: The Unlikeable Demon Hunter: Crave by Deborah Wilde

The Unlikeable Demon Hunter: Crave (Nava Katz, #4)The Unlikeable Demon Hunter: Crave by Deborah Wilde

What doesn’t kill you ...

seriously messes with your love life.

Nava is happily settling into her new relationship and life is all giddy joy and stolen kisses.

Except when it’s assassins. Talk about a mood killer.

She and Rohan are tracking the unlikely partnership between the Brotherhood and a witch who can bind demons, but every new piece of the puzzle is leaving them with more questions than answers.

And someone doesn’t appreciate them getting close to the truth.

Go figure.

On top of that, a demon known only as Candyman has unleashed a drug that’s harming users in extremely disturbing ways.

Nava vows to take this demon down. But will life as she knows it survive this mission, or will this be the one time she should have looked before she leapt?

Happily-ever-after? Barring death, she’s got a real shot at it.


What I thought

Nava and Ro *sigh*

Leo and Drio *double sigh*

Ari and Kane *triple sigh*

So here's the thing about a series, the character become your friends...you want things to go well for them, and when it doesn't...

There were so many times, I just wanted to reach into the book and slap them all upside the head :-/ Aside from the emotional turmoil caused by Nava and Ro, this read was all kinds of good. I mean it starts with Nava and Ro kissing - we've been waiting a long time for that - having a night off, and then jumps into snark and action.

The Candyman case, along with the ongoing investigation into the purple magic leads into some interesting moments. The least of which is what's up with Nava's magic - which is all kinds of "oooooh". We meet some new folks, Nava and her mom have a moment, Nava and Ro have moments...and then there's the interesting things we learn about them thanks to the interactions with the oshka.

I'm all in with the series. But now I need the next book like in my hands right now. So many things to clear up, and get answers too...and maybe some more Ro too :p

*I'm a lucky fish and on the authors ARC team.*

Monday, 2 April 2018

Currently - well more like it's been awhile

Well, hi there folks it's been awhile. It's a catch-up/currently post because I have some book related posts coming soon. I figured let's not just have a bunch of reviews.

Hmmmm since I last wrote there's been a few things. I finally got my mark for my MA. It's so much more than I was expecting, I got my degree cum laude aka a distinction :D The picture below is of Jerall and I post the graduation ceremony.

I got into my big dream university for my PhD. But funding is an issue...also that whole it's in an entirely different country. So while there are aspects of doing my PhD elsewhere, and the impact thereof on my career...career does not trump family. So I'm working on sorting it out to do my PhD at Stellenbosch. Writing it here, it's a short thing...but gosh did this whole thing stress me out. It's quite ridiculous how long it took and how it played out -_-

Keiden is happy at school. There were a few rough moments with him getting a new teacher, and some silly things with his friends. But overall he is happy and having fun, so that's a win. He's making great strides at swimming, and is swimming more and more by himself. Life skills ftw! On the not so great side, his paediatrician based on some recent bouts of sickness - and allergies - has given Keiden an asthma diagnosis. My kid is a rock star and so so good at the twice daily pump.

Jerall is being ever himself, so that's good. His thesis is a work in progress, but come September he should be submitting. So I've told him he has to start his PhD next year too :p

I may have sightly over extended myself, but busy is better than not. Am tutoring 2 third year modules and 1 first year module this semester. May tutor less next semester - need to try and get an article or two out of my M.

Overall, I think things are going generally well and on the positive side of contentment for my little family. And that's all good.

How have you been?

Friday, 16 February 2018

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Friday, 2 February 2018

Five for Friday: Shinning my light

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This post is inspired by a chat with some of my peoples. We were talking about how there's a thing that women need to be all humble, humble, humble. And really we should shine the light on our accomplishments. So here are five I'm shining a light on.

I finished my MA in a year - that is freaking huge, especially in a department where most take three years. No more downplaying it for me, and saying I did stuff on it the year before when I was doing the diploma. I registered for my MA Jan 2017, and submitted end October 2017 - so actually less than a year, but hey I'm still waiting for my mark.

I have finally completed a 30 days of yoga challenge. Folks I've been trying to do it for three years, and this year it happened. Also I'm at 31 days of it now...and am going to ride the wave as far as I can. It's become so ingrained that both J and K tend to ask when I'm going to do it when we get home in the evenings.

I got accepted into a PhD programme at a UK university. Funding is an issue, but you know what...my proposal for my research was so good, they want me. Totally got to remember that.

I have an 81 day streak on Duolingo, that means I've set aside time 81 days in a row to learn a language or three. I'm taking action to make things happen.

A soppy one. Tomorrow Jerall and I will have been a couple for 14 years - that's an accomplishment. The work and love that goes into a relationship is astounding. And I'm proud to be half of a pair that's getting it right.

Want to share some of yours?

Tuesday, 30 January 2018

Now you are four

Dear Keiden,

Today you turned four, and as you keep on telling us it means you're big boy now. Sometimes I'm not to sure about that, but I do know that you're most definitely not the little monkey we brought home from the hospital. Instead, now you're a fully blown silly goose. Well also a kiddie-binki, a silly, mommy's love, kiddio, goosey-loosey, sweetie pie, silly nanana and always mommy's baby.

Your year of three has been an interesting one. You started swimming lessons - you took some time to get into it, but now it's one of your favourite things. You go to lessons on Friday afternoons, then we have lunch at daddy's office, after which you and I go to the library and gardens. Sometimes, we both have silly moments, but mostly mommy really enjoys spending that time with you. We both agree that books are awesome :D

It's also been the year that Lego became a big thing for you. You decided that duplo was for babies, and as you're a big boy it'll only be Lego proper for you. Fortunately when you decided this, there was friend having a birthday who got to enjoy getting lots of blocks. You have spent hours and hours "reading" the instruction books, paging through the Lego catalogue, watching lego videos on youtube and building ALL THE THINGS. You often build something, and tell me to take a picture. Something you and daddy do often is see a cool toy - like your friend's marble maze, and then go home and build it from lego. You make up some great adventures and stories for your mini figs...all while asking me if mine can play too (it's still a no on that goose).

Given how much lego has been a big thing for you, it's not surprising that your first movie at the cinema was Lego Batman. And while you liked Batman, he still doesn't top your love for Captain America and Star Wars. Speaking of Star Wars, the Last Jedi was your second ever movie at the cinema. I'm still disturbed though by you being a big fan of Darth Vader and Kylo Ren...it just doesn't mesh with how much you like Luke, Asoka, Ezra and Rei. You really enjoyed your advent calendar, and very generously gave mommy the builds and mini figs you weren't that keen on :p

Although goose, its not surprising that you happily share. Your kindness is something I'm in awe of, also it's something school mentions in your reports, along with your dance moves (dance moves that are something all you, mommy and daddy don't have any). Your kindness, gentleness and caring heart are something that explains just why you seem to have many friends at school. Although, I'd appreciate if you'd remember that P is your friend that is a girl, not girlfriend. 

You've settled in more at school, something I'm glad happened. It seems Keiden, that while you're slow to warm to people, once you've decided that someone is your friend they're your friend for always. This also means you want to see your friends all the time. So school holidays were tough for you, you missed seeing your people. E is one of your people not from school, and goodness do you love seeing him. It's a good thing that his parents and yours are friends too. He and his mom are often people we ask to come with on our exploring.

Our exploring has carried on, but sometimes you just want to stay at home and not do much. Well other than build, read some stories and play "cooking game" with daddy. Playing in your kitchen, or playing cooking games with daddy on his computer are such fun for you. But not as much fun as when you and daddy cook or bake together. Your year of three had you making sandwiches, stirring all the pots, and making cheese sauce and pancakes. I hope that cooking stays something you enjoy.

Three was the year when you moved away from baby and toddler things to big boy life. And while it's been great to see, it's also been hard. Your stubbornness has been something epic, not to mention this habit of back chat. Best you sort that out this year :p

My Keiden, there is no one and there will never be anyone like you EVER. 

Love you lots and lots,

Friday, 19 January 2018

Thursday, 18 January 2018

Book Thursday: Dragon School: Initiate by Sarah K L Wilson [Review]

Magic comes to Dragon School. Can it be trusted? 

With First Flight behind her, sixteen-year-old Amel believes she can finally settle into her studies and learn to be a Dragon Rider. 

But when a friend is brutally injured, another has a dark secret, and Amel is entrusted with a vital message, she must question where her loyalties lie. Worse, Magikas have arrived at Dragon School and they bring both change and new prejudice against Amel. 

With the home Amel found at Dragon School quickly disappearing, will she know who to trust or will her new friendships disappear as quickly as her safety? 

My thoughts

Dragon School: Initiate

Well hello second book of action packed punches.

In this read - which is far too short, I need more answers - the world is fleshed out much more with magic beyond that we see at the school shows up. It's great seeing Amel find her feet around the school and with those who keep on doubting she'll make it. Her growing relationships with those around her is great to see. Not to forget that while she can dither on making a decision when needed she can be decisive and get things done.

It's another enjoyable four stars for this read from me.

*I'm a lucky fish and received an ARC of this*

Tuesday, 16 January 2018

The power of music

I was introduced to The Cranberries, well Zombie specifically by the older daughter of friends of my parents. She changed the way I saw music, and the world. From it I learnt that the world was so much more, and bigger,  than my ugly family bubble. That anger could lead to something beautiful and powerful. And that, that power could change the world.

I find it fitting that the words that best describe the loss of Dolores O'Riordan comes from another musician we lost, Chester Bennington [who wrote the song for the loss of Chris Cornell]

If they say
Who cares if one more light goes out?
In a sky of a million stars
It flickers, flickers
Who cares when someone's time runs out?
If a moment is all we are
We're quicker, quicker
Who cares if one more light goes out?
Well I do

Friday, 12 January 2018

Thursday, 11 January 2018

Book Thursday: Dragon School: First Flight by Sarah K L Wilson [Review]

Join Dragon School. Learn to Fly. 

Sixteen-year-old Amel arrived at Dragon School just like everyone else – with a dream to ride dragons and join the Dominion Dragon Riders.

But Amel has a crippled leg and Dragon School training is grueling. Before she can even become an initiate, she must complete her First Flight on a dragon. 

Can Amel survive First Flight and become a Dragon School initiate or will her dreams dash on the rocks below?


My thoughts

Dragon School: First Flight
This was an enjoyable taster of a fascinating world. I really enjoyed the pace of it, the protagonist, and the other cast of characters. It's a really quick read that grabs you from start to finish.

It's a four star read for me.

There are two things that stopped this from being a five star read: I didn't enjoy that the school despite the attention made to it not mattering who you were before with all being equal as a dragon rider, this was not done with the dragon selection. I understand that it shows the other factors at play, but it would have been great if Amel wasn't the last to pick her dragon. Another quibble is about the dragons, if her chosen one was so special why how did he make it to last pick?

*I'm a lucky fish who got given an ARC of the book*

Monday, 8 January 2018

You contain multitudes

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You contain multitudes.

Your issue/thought/concern X matters because you matter - the right people will understand this.

Your multitudes mean that you can see and care about the state of the world, all of it's ugh and ugly and tear inducing horrors...all while being annoyed by bad coffee. 

You matter.

But while you matter it does not mean that you can treat anyone like they and their concerns matter less than you and your concerns. There is no scale of who matters and who doesn't - find people who understand this.

Find people who understand that while they have BIG things going on, it doesn't mean your things aren't BIG too.

Treat and care as you desire to be treated and cared about.

You matter.

You contain multitudes.

There has never been, there is not now, and there will never be someone like you.

You are multitudes.

Thursday, 4 January 2018

Book Thursday: Modern Persuasion by Sara Marks [Review]

Modern PersuasionModern Persuasion (21st Century Austen #1)
by Sara Marks
Genre: Contemporary Romance

Which would you pick: the person you love or your own dreams?

What would you do if given a second chance at that decision?

Eight years ago Emma Shaw picked her career and family over the man she loved, Fredrick Wentworth. Since then she has built a career in publishing and spends her free time making sure her father and sisters are taken care of. Fredrick has spent the same years building his career as a screenwriter under increasing public scrutiny as a celebrity. When the editor of Fredrick’s first book is injured, Emma is forced to travel with Fredrick on his book tour.

Tension builds for the two former lovers over the course of the tour. Emma and Fredrick must face their emotional baggage and their misunderstanding about how their break-up impacted the other. Will they be able to find their way back together for a second chance at love? 

My thoughts

For the most this was an enjoyable read, but there were some moments of pacing that just didn't work for me. I enjoyed the ways in which the characters grappled with their emotions, each other and the situation. I was not a fan of the way everyone in Fredrick's life loved her - it just felt forced. I am a fan of the use of messaging within the novel.

His half in agony, half in hope "letter" had some rare moments of insight into Fredrick's perspectives of some moments, but ultimately it felt like a recap of everything I had just read...a waste of space, and part of the pacing issue.

If you're thinking this is because it's a re-telling of a loved Austen, it's not. Persuasion is the one Austen I haven't read - I do though know the general gist of it, and the way in which it was used in other books and a movie. It's actually because I haven't read Persuasion that I thought I could give this book a whirl - I'm cautious around re-tellings.

*I'm a lucky fish and got a given a copy of the book.*

Tuesday, 2 January 2018

Transformation - my word for 2018

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Let me specify, positive transformation that it :p The word for the year thing works better for me than resolutions. The goals I want to achieve are all related to my self transformation. So here are my goals in no particular order.

  • Create more, consume less/with more purpose. This will be done with 3 blog posts a week, more colouring in, less mindless scrolling and reading, reading more nonfiction. Creating more also means writing an article or two from my thesis.
  • Have fewer moments of feeling not enough/not good enough/that I don't belong. This means more therapy, more reflection and tons of interior work. It also works with my keep on learning, focus on the visual studies plan for this year, keep on doing duolingo, and PhD dreams.
  • Feel less hate towards my body. This means I need to treat it better, do exercise, watch my portions, treat it with care.
Do you have a word for the year? Goals?

Monday, 1 January 2018

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2019 Reading Challenge

2019 Reading Challenge
Cassey has read 10 books toward their goal of 100 books.

2018 Reading Challenge

2018 Reading Challenge
Cassey has read 0 books toward their goal of 100 books.

2017 Reading Challenge

Cassey has read 1 book toward their goal of 200 books.

2016 Reading Challenge

2016 Reading Challenge
Cassey has read 9 books toward a goal of 100 books.

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