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Sunday, 31 July 2016


Topping the list week:

  • as always when it rains, rain
  • and with that having somewhere warm and dry to be while it rains
  • coffee
  • tea
  • books, and especially the free ones I've come across
  • a three hour coffee date with a friend
  • great social moments in the lab
  • therapy
  • bubble baths
  • seeing friends
  • cheese
  • Keiden cooking - he made our breakfast of oats yesterday, with some help from daddy because of the stove. He was so pleased with himself, it is all kinds of great seeing him become more and more confident in things
What's topping your list this week?

Saturday, 30 July 2016

Friday, 29 July 2016

Five for Friday: Keiden Edition

Tomorrow Keiden is 2 and a half. Time has flown by...and my baby is now a full-of-attitude toddler.

On Monday he had a stroppy about getting dressed. We got him dressed, left his room with an instruction to put his shoes on. As we got to our room, his door closed with a snap. Had he had more muscle power it would have been a bang. J and I could only laugh.

He has come into more confidence, he tends to greet most people. And has waving and smiling moments with folks in other cars. On the flip side, he's gotten very vocal with folks and tells them to go away, where before he'd ignore them.

The bedtime routine has had some more books added to it - the current count is 4 books - and all the teddy bears are put at the end of his bed with their own blanket.

He is getting more and more involved with household chores. He wants to help with all the cooking, and has taken to 'folding' the laundry :)

Thursday, 28 July 2016

Book Thursday

The Traveler

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

There's a girl, there's a boy, a world ending event...only the boy is part of that. What will happen? I enjoyed reading this, I particularly enjoyed that this is a very different approach to the question of what would happen when we meet aliens.

The time spent on taking this from just 'another' girl meets boy tangle is well worth it. Yes, we do have to deal with the moments of self pity that Rachel enjoys, but they help show just why and how she reacts to seeing Dex again as she does.

The one drawback for me is that this is a first person narrative, and I'd really, really like to get more from the other characters like Dex and is siblings, Jason...and for a brief moment Martha and Nicholas. It is a story drawback, but the fact that I want to know more about the other characters speaks highly of just how good Melissa Delport is at building a complete world for the story; something that shouldn't be underrated at all.

It would seem that Melissa Delport is on track to becoming a favourite author of mine, there is something to be said for someone who writes in different genres. I'm intrigued enough by what happened to read the rest of the series - when it's out - but I don't have the deep abiding love for it like I have for her Guardians of Summerfeld series. It seems I can't read any of her other books without comparing it to that 0_o.

*Lucky fish that I am, I received my copy for free in exchange for a review*

Wednesday, 27 July 2016

Zombie Prompt #30

An average day

I'm going to go with an average week day. 

  • Wake up properly between 06:00 and 07:00 - K still wakes at night
  • Snuggle with K
  • Change his nappy
  • Do my morning bathroom stuff
  • Get clothes for K and myself out while J sorts out breakfast
  • Have breakfast
  • We drop K off at school between
  • J goes to work, and I go to the lab
  • Do work - break for coffee and chats as the morning goes on
  • Go to J's office for lunch between 12:30 and 13:00
  • Finish lunch, fetch K
  • Do house work, play games with K. Sometimes we go visit folks
  • J gets home about 17:00ish
  • One of us starts supper
  • Supper sometime between 17:45 and 18:15
  • Bath/shower time for K
  • Followed by stories and sleep time
  • Chat with J. He plays games, I read/blog/watch a me show or we watch shows together
  • Bed at about 23:00ish
What does your day look like?

Prompt from her, image from her.

Tuesday, 26 July 2016

Monday, 25 July 2016

When do you walk away from a friendship?

As we grow, and change how much are we supposed to do to not let friendships fall to the wayside? Or are we just supposed to go, the season with this person is done...and let the friendship go or filter into much less than it was?

I find myself tending towards rage and ugh when around a friend, and the silly things that person says. I do call the said person out on some things - particularly when they tend towards sexist. I'm also aware that given my tend towards rage and ugh with this person I'm not really being fair.

But how much am I supposed to do? Especially as this is a 10 or so year long relationship. And the person is the significant other of another friend? Or is this something like I mentioned earlier, just something to let go and change into much less?

Wasn't this supposed to get easier as we got older?

Sunday, 24 July 2016


Topping the list this week:

  • learning something new
  • practical classes
  • meeting new folks
  • rain
  • having somewhere warm and dry to be while it rains
  • my health
  • coffee
  • tea
  • feelings of validation
  • cute K moments
  • voicenotes - K loves sending them to folks, and asks to send some to ah-ma
  • hugs
  • taking it easy weekends
  • moments of validation
  • supportive folks being in my life

Saturday, 23 July 2016

Friday, 22 July 2016

Five for Friday

  • Learning new things makes me very happy.
  • Being told I'm selfish for not having another child doesn't. It makes me rage.
  • Toddlers are challenging to deal with, but not as challenging as dealing with folks who think they have the right to tell me what to do with my body.
  • Coffee is the greatest invention/finding.
  • Practical classes and assignments ftw!

Thursday, 21 July 2016

Book Thursday

My New Home by Marta Altés

This is a wonderful story about moving homes and making new friends. The illustrations in this book reaffirms my belief that children’s picture books are wonderfully works of art to be enjoyed on all levels. Not a page within the book doesn’t have illustrations that make the art, more than the words tell the story. The very first page, that’s often blank or has print details in other books, has the fox packing a box with her toys.

I thought she was a fox, and called her so to Keiden - who has an impolite way of saying fox - but only when Jerall read the story to Keiden did we discover that mommy and animals don’t go well together. As daddy says she’s not a fox, but we can’t quite agree on what animal she is. So I am sticking to fox. What do you think?

I digress, this book is absolutely wonderful, and belongs in every parent's arsenal when facing a move. It is suitable for two and up. With the protagonist and her friends not being named it would be very easy to use your child’s name, and that for her friends to further the connection, and help settle any move nerves.  It shows that yes, change can be horrid, and making friends takes time. But in the end you can make more friends, and have any space feel like home with the right people.

Keiden loved this book, we had to renew it a few times, he clearly gives it a 5/5 and so do I.

How do you handle big changes with your little? Do you get animals wrong too?

This review originally appeared on Tums2Tots.

Wednesday, 20 July 2016

Zombie Prompt #29

If I won the lottery…

Well now really it depends on which lottery and how big. Winning Euros or Pounds would turn into a lot more than winning 2 or so million Rand. Either way it'd be: settle debt, take a massive chunk and get it into a great paying interest account, and then all the travel. So much travelling. Oh, and not let anyone know about it, far too many people would expect me to just sort things out for them. I'd rather do things for those I want to do so for, rather than those who would just demand it as their due.

What would you do?
Prompt from her, image from her.

Tuesday, 19 July 2016

Monday, 18 July 2016


Watching: Fairly similar to my last post; Masterchef Australia and Star Trek: Next Generation with J and K. With some Studio C and anime in the mix.

Reading: Less fiction, more thesis related items. And this week tons of stuff for my week of interview methods class.

Listening: The Hamilton soundtrack, Sara Bareilles, Fall Out Boy, and podcasts.

Doing: All the readings for class, going to class, avoiding some work, doing others, household chores, thesis musings, hunting Pokemon.

Contemplating: My research proposal - ethical considerations, practicalities, funding. What else we can do for K and his toilet use at home. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.

What's up with you?

Sunday, 17 July 2016


Topping the list this week:

  • a new chair
  • coffee
  • sleeping late - we hit 08:00 yesterday morning
  • books
  • library trips
  • new things to do while out and about with Keiden - Pokemon Go
  • a streak of sunny weather
  • tea
  • nutmeg
  • hugs
  • starting to feel more like myself
  • taking many steps
  • silly moments with J and K
What's topping your list this week?

Saturday, 16 July 2016

Friday, 15 July 2016

Five for Friday: #CarseatFullstop Edition

We've all seen it at one point or the other, the kiddie missiles bouncing around in the backseat of a car, or the kid on a lap, or the worst one of all...the parent driving with a kid on their lap. I don't know about you, but seeing those gets my blood rolling. Kids belong in the back of the car in a CAR SEAT!

The wonder that is Mandy, has the same reactions...and is doing something about it. She's working with as many folks as she can to spread the message that we need to ensure that all littles are in car seats. There are so many horrifying stats about children and car accidents.

A stat that scares me - only 15% of children who should be in car seats are. That's 85% of kids whose parents don't love them as much as they claim. [Yes, I got judgey...deal.] In an accident those kiddie missiles go flying...try to imagine the horror of your baby smashing though a window. Chilling.

Yes, there are folks who can't afford car seats [although being able to afford and maintain a car to me means that you should be able to afford a car seat] and that's why there's Wheel Well's project where you can donate, and they inspect the donated seat before passing it on.

So what can we do? Well we can tell those we know/see [and we all know someone or see folks doing this at our kids schools] that its against the law for their kid to not be in a car seat, to be in the front of the car before 12 and that they must protect their kid...it is your job as a parent to look after your kid. We need to call people on this reckless behaviour. Share the stories that will be coming out from Monday:  LIKE #CarseatFullstop on Facebook, SIGN UP for the newsletter,  FOLLOW on Twitter,  FOLLOW on Instagram or on Google+.  Use your voice.

Thursday, 14 July 2016

Book Thursday

Harry and the Dinosaurs Go to School  by Ian Whybrow and Adrian Reynolds

This is another one of the books we incorporated into bedtime reading to help Keiden ease into the idea of school. If you’ve got a little who loves dinosaurs then this is well checking out.

We found it at our local library and were pleased to discover that it is part of a series. Harry is starting school, and lucky Harry has a friend who goes there too. He has moments of shyness, but overcomes them by helping a classmate who is very, very shy.

This one is a favorite of mine because it shows that each child is different. Some aren’t shy, others are...but all can become friends and get to know their classmates better. It also had the different dinosaurs shows the various emotions that come to the fore when going to school. One was extremely afraid of going to school, something that some littles can identify with.

Keiden particularly enjoyed the RAAAH the dinosaurs made. One his reread scale this one gets a 4/5. I give it a 5/5 - dinosaurs are great ;)

This review originally appeared on Tums2Tots.

Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Zombie Prompt #28

What is in my fridge?
Time for a bullet list :p
  • butter
  • eggs
  • milk
  • feta
  • cheddar cheese
  • onions
  • garlic
  • pumpkin pieces
  • kale
  • green beans
  • mushrooms
  • carrots
  • olives
  • leftovers for lunch tomorrow
  • red pepper
  • frozen peas
  • dim sum
  • boa
  • oven chips
  • Fry's vegetarian schnitzel
What is in your fridge? 

Prompt from her, image from her.

Tuesday, 12 July 2016

Code Switch

I've come across a fascinating podcast, Code Switch. It is something I think everyone should listen to. It's a thoughtful look at race and identity. I'm gaining some understanding as to why there are white folks who push so hard against the idea of having white privilege. Beyond the fact that they don't understand it. [Growing up as a poor white person is very different to growing up as a poor poc]

Anyhow, give the podcast a listen. It's amazing. Even though it approaches things from the US perspective.

Monday, 11 July 2016

Sunday, 10 July 2016


Topping the list this week:

  • a weekend of all the games
  • coffee
  • tea
  • rain
  • having somewhere warm and dry to be while it rains
  • jerseys
  • massages
  • being part of getting a great present for a friend
  • new food ideas
  • books
  • quite moments
  • making small progress in my being better with money plans
  • making progress on paying off my fees
  • good medicine
  • bubble baths
  • hot water bottles
What's making your list this week?

Saturday, 9 July 2016

Friday, 8 July 2016

Five for Friday

And there is nothing more subversive for a woman to do than believe she deserves to get what she wants and to recognize in herself the willingness to fight to get it. This gorgeous sentence comes from this great, although long, read.

I'm looking forward to a weekend of all the boardgames. 

My reading is taking a nosedive. Mostly because I'm still waging war on the cold I mentioned last week, and I just keep on falling asleep really early.

It irks me to no end that in order to be warm, I need to wear mens jerseys. Why, in the name of all that is good, are womens clothes always so much thinner than mens? I understand different cuts, but for the fabrics to be different, when the function is the same? Ugh. I'm building up to a massive rant about the horror that patriarchy, everywhere and all the time. 

I'm enamoured with Jesse Williams speech from the BET awards. And it is so, so relevant. If you haven't seen or read it, you can check it out here.

Thursday, 7 July 2016

Book Thursday

The Things I Love About School  by Trace Moroney

This is one of the books we read in preparation for Keiden going to school. It was an excellent gift from one of his cousins - well my sil picked it out ;). In this book the bunny excitedly shares all he/she loves about school.

Bunny’s gender isn’t clearly apparent as bunny wears an orange top with jeans, making it very easy for your child to see him/herself as bunny. Learning all sorts of new things and having a good time. The illustrations are lively and fun, with lots of little details for your little to pick out.

Keiden loves this book. It’s one of his two go to choices for bedtime reading. And each time it’s a minimum of three reads.

Clearly Keiden gives it a 5/5 on the rereading scale, I give it a 5/5 too. It’s something we believe has helped him ease into school a smidge better.

This review originally appeared on Tums2Tots.

Wednesday, 6 July 2016

Zombie Prompt #27

What's in my handbag?

What is this thing called a handbag? Seriously, though I don't have one. I have a messenger bag I use during the week when going to campus. And put my phone, wallet and keys in my pockets over the weekend.

In the messenger bag I have:
  • hand lotion
  • stationery bag
  • bullet journal
  • thesis idea notepad
  • which ever book I'm reading for my thesis/course reader for classes that week
  • wallet
  • phone
  • keys
  • student card on lanyard
  • lobello
  • tissues
  • hand-wipes
  • water less sanitizer
  • hairbands
  • period stuff mini bag
What'a in your bag?

Prompt from her, image from her.

Tuesday, 5 July 2016

My reading month: June

In June I read 49 books. Although 5 were novellas so it's more like 45 books :p

The highlights of my June reading almost all came from one author, Siobhan Davis. I really, really enjoyed her Saven and True Calling series.[True Calling is completed, and Saven will be finishing in August. There does though appear to be some other stories forthcoming from the True Calling universe with some characters from the series. *all the excited squees*] I won't share my reviews of those in this post, as they're lined up as Book Thursday posts.

I have finally managed to read a book, and a novella, by Colleen Hoover, and I get the hype now.

Ugly LoveUgly Love by Colleen Hoover
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Wow, just wow. I now get the Colleen Hoover hype.

What was your June reading month like? Novellas, yay or nay?

Monday, 4 July 2016

About that no shampoo thing

In my most recent Five for Friday I mentioned it has been a month of doing the no shampoo thing, and Marcia wanted a post about it. So here's a post :p

It all started with the powerpuff pic on the right. I shared my pic on twitter and Tally, said she hadn't thought I was a curly haired person. The two of us then chatted about the trials and tribulations of curly hair. Abigail then told us about not using shampoo and what it has done for her hair. I was intrigued and figured I'd give it a go at some point - I had at that point being using sulfate free shampoo and conditioner, so the change wouldn't be that big.

Boy was I mistaken. It's been a month now of no shampoo and it has made a big difference to me. I do believe though that having been sulfate free for so long definitely helped me get past the worst of it.

I do a 'wash' with conditioner, and then follow it up with conditioner as usual. The  most important thing I learnt from this was to rinse and rinse well. I had a wash where I didn't rinse well enough and my hair, that normally doesn't get oily quickly was an oil bomb on day two. My hair has felt much more softer, and this is with me following my usual  air dry and then flat iron my hair routine. I barely need to use heat protection serum anymore.

So if you have thick curly hair I can definitely recommend the no shampoo thing. If the idea of no shampoo scares you then for now switch to sulfate free items. I use the Hask range [they don't test on animals]. Yes, it's a bit more expensive than other ranges, but it lasts for much longer than other ranges as you use less.

Sunday, 3 July 2016

Saturday, 2 July 2016

Friday, 1 July 2016

Five for Friday

  • After two repeat of insy-wincy spider I sing "And the spider climbed up again, and again, and again, and again", and now Keiden sings it like that too :D
  • I'm a terrible sick person - I get all kinds of grumpy - so it helps that I've been home alone most of this week. It spares J and K.
  • I'm finally getting some marks back from some of my classes. *sigh* It's not the marks I was expecting, they're not terrible, but I am so tired of just missing 70% + [If you didn't know 75% is a distinction, so my high 60s puts me in something like the B+ range]
  • Hamilton is still my go to music pick, it's been about 3 months or so of it. Unusual for me, as I tend to get over a favourite song in about a month or two.
  • I'v been doing the no shampoo thing for a month now, and my hair hasn't felt softer. It is amazing, just how soft, my hair has gotten.

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