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Thursday, 31 December 2015

Goodbye 2015

Goodbye 2015, it's been interesting.

We've had a few ups, lots of downs....but mostly I'd say we're averaging a good relationship. You've helped me drop some unnecessary people, pick up some great new ones. And probably figured myself out a bit better.

Thanks for the books, shows, food, music and movies. Thank you for all the new things, and fun firsts to see of Keiden's. I appreciate that I haven't killed any plants this year, that my need to create Sims and have them lead awful lives was at one of the lowest it's been at since I started doing that. The new knowledge has been cool too.

Bye, bye.

Wednesday, 30 December 2015

Zombie prompts

So Megan, had this great idea. She put together a list of 52 prompts for blogging next year. A few folks are going to join in on the fun too. I'll be doing my post every Wednesday.

Cupcakemummy created the awesome logo/pic. I think a few folks will be using it, I most definitely will.

Here are the prompts. Feel free to use them, just don't forget to link where you found them.

  1. What do you want your great-great-great-grandkids to know about you?
  2. What DIY projects are on your spring to-do list?
  3. What do you consider to be your biggest achievement?
  4. What do you lie about?
  5. What are your top 5 pieces of clothing?
  6. Share a DIY Tutorial for handmade Valentines.
  7. List the best movies and TV shows for binge-watching on a rainy weekend.
  8. Create a series of date night guides for your city.
  9. What do you love about your current life?
  10. What are you looking forward to right now?
  11. Share your goals and resolutions for 2016 and discuss what you want your life to look like one year from now.
  12. What is one new thing you want to learn this year?
  13. What are you ready to let go of this year?
  14. Share your best soup recipe.
  15. Write the beginning of a scary story and let your readers decide what happens next.
  16. Show your readers 5 different ways to decorate pumpkins.
  17. What are your biggest long term dreams?
  18. If you were to run a kickstarter campaign, what would your project be?
  19. Keep a gratitude journal for a week and share the entries.
  20. Share some old family photos.
  21. Do research on your family tree and share what you find.
  22. What is one holiday tradition you want to start in your family?
  23. Share things you have pinned that you want to try before the end of the year.
  24. Best on-the-go breakfast recipe.
  25. 10 songs I love right now.
  26. Pet peeves.
  27. Whats in my handbag?
  28. Whats in my fridge?
  29. If I won the lottery…
  30. An average day.
  31. My 5 favourite blogs
  32. Half way through the year, how are the goals coming?
  33. Happy Fathers Day! What is awesome about your dad and your kids’dad?
  34. What tips do you have for a newbie gardener?
  35. Favourite coffee recipe
  36. What books do you want to read before the year is over?
  37. What about people’s cellphone habits drive you nuts?
  38. Share a home made ice cream recipe
  39. What’s in your beach bag?
  40. 24 July is national tequila day! Share a recipe for a tequila cocktail!
  41. Share a Christmas DIY tutorial.
  42. Share a series of photos that tell the story of your Christmas.
  43. What is on your giving wishlist for this year? What cool things would you want to give to someone else?
  44. What do you do when you are home all alone?
  45. Things I would do if I was brave…
  46. Other lives I would want to live if I had nine lives…
  47. A picture of you, last year and now, what has changed?
  48. What three things do you want your children to learn from you.
  49. Five ways to win your heart.
  50. Post your zodiac sign and whether it fits you.
  51. If I could have any celebrity chef prepare dinner for me who would it be?
  52. List 3 things I would like to do differently for Christmas this year…

Tuesday, 29 December 2015

Monday, 28 December 2015

I don't care, I ship it

I was chatting to someone and said, oh I ship them. I got a blank stare in return. So for folks who don't know it, shipping isn't just what ships do, it's when a fan of a relationship (specifically in books, movies, anime and tv series) is for the relationship. They ship it.

For a fun take watch this:

Another great look at the world of fandom and shipping can be seen in Rainbow Rowell's Fangirl...such a great read. I see shipping as a giant part of fandom...particularly for those heavily invested in those worlds.  My current ship is a bit of a spoiler if you haven't seen Star Wars: The Force Awakens.

DO NOT CROSS THE LINE (unless you don't care/have seen the move)

And just for fun:

Sunday, 27 December 2015


This week I'm grateful for:

  • being able to give presents
  • being able to spend time with the family I built
  • love
  • being able to have a break from work
  • food
  • trifle
  • friends
  • that presents are some needed items given with love
  • books
  • more reading time
  • health
  • having a plan for 2016
What tops your list this week?

Saturday, 26 December 2015

Friday, 25 December 2015

Thursday, 24 December 2015

Wednesday, 23 December 2015

Tuesday, 22 December 2015

Quick sticks

A short and sweet one. Pretty much to keep my post everyday quest going. It can, and shall be done. The season is in full swing as the visits have started. We saw the sil and her family today, tomorrow visiting friends, Thursday we do our Christmas Eve thing...and then it's Christmas.

Isn't this just lovely.

Monday, 21 December 2015

Sometimes people just stagger you with kindness

When I checked my e-mail yesterday morning I wasn't expecting any special beyond the usual newsletters. But there was something amazing. Marcia, had sent me something wonderful and amazing, and staggering in it's kindness.

The gift itself - an audio book set with workbooks, and other extras - is great. But the staggering part was that someone who is a blogging buddy, took the time to get something just for me. That, because it was related to me asking her thing about my big idea, should that someone who only knows me through my words has a belief in my doing something...and is helping me get there.

It was/is absolutely staggering in kindness. 

Thank you so much lady.

Sunday, 20 December 2015


This week's big moments:

  • getting to watch Star Wars: The Force Awakens
  • an amazing idea
  • saying yes to scary things
  • afternoon naps
  • hugs
  • coffee with a friend
  • Keiden coming more and more into himself
  • Jerall's leave starting
  • random phone calls
  • good books
  • being able to be there for folks
  • good news for friends
  • being able to do something that made someone's day
  • good folks doing the unexpected
  • new music finds
  • chocolate
What makes your list this week? 

Saturday, 19 December 2015

An interesting link or four

This, has really been staying with me. It could be the 300 hundred book estimate...pretty scary to think there's not enough time for all the books I want to read.

I just loved this, Can two people be in love forever? Although to be honest there is very little by Janelle that I don't love.

A must read for any Sound of Music fans with a sense of humour.

And while still on the humour track, this is just all kinds of funny - if you watched the Great British Bake Off.

Friday, 18 December 2015

Dear Keiden

Monkey, it was with some shock that I realised that today was the last day. The last day, of it being you and I together at home all day during the week.

Daddy, just got home from week, and is now officially on leave. And he'll still be on leave when you start school. The closer, and closer it gets to the 4th of January...the more and more nervous I get.

I know that this will be one of the best things we can do for you, and me. But I'm going to miss you and how we are now a lot. We're also going to have to move tickle time from the morning to the afternoon when you get home from school.

Love you lots, always.

Thursday, 17 December 2015

Wednesday, 16 December 2015

Maybe my therapist wasn't quite all wrong about this

A recent therapy session was one of those "Don't make me look at this, do we have to?" sessions. And I cornered in on a realisation that I'm sure my therapist saw - it explains a lot that she'd been saying to me, especially about how I see things.

I blame Inside Out for this, by the way. We had watched it the weekend before I the session in question here. At my core, a core memory, an island of personality is the belief that I am a bad person. No amount of telling me otherwise will change it. And everything that seems "good" actually isn't and just adds to that.

My therapist says this isn't so. She says I'm not, and that my words do help. That part matters because I tell her about how I say yay you for folks, and do other words of encouragement things, but that it doesn't make me a good person. Because it takes very little for me to do that. And that I'm sure that anyone who thinks to do that, does it just so. And that it is what must be done, because that's how you help people.

Recently, I asked Cath (of the magic words) to help me with something. She did, because she is awesome that way. And I realised that maybe my words do mean something, because if she of the magic words says my words are magic...then maybe they are? (insert all the shocked no way, that can't be so thoughts and expressions you have, and that's me times 10000000)

Then there have been moments of reaching out to different folks...just with my words, just over a screen connection. And I think I've helped briefly. So maybe my therapist wasn't quite all wrong.

Tuesday, 15 December 2015

Monday, 14 December 2015

What Keiden would do for scooby snacks

Yesterday, we took Keiden to see his first show. I won tickets for us to see Scooby-Doo Live from Maz. It turned into a double lucky win, as our seats got bumped up and we were a bit closer to the stage.

Keiden was full of wows for everything most of the time. He even responded when the audience got asked questions. Granted it was his go to of no, but it was still pretty cute. We were so pleased to see him having fun. There was no moaning, asking to go or saying he was done. 

It was a fun show, and I still have some of the songs stuck in my head. All in all, it was a fun something different to do with him. And if you're on the fence about taking your almost 2 year old to a live performance, I say go for it :)

Sunday, 13 December 2015


This week has been all over the place. And this is just the right thing to do to help me see the good for the trees.

Topping the list this week:

  • love
  • friends who find the same things I do fun
  • wining a competition that is letting us take Keiden to his first ever live show
  • the willingness of others to spend their time on me
  • that I learnt how to ask for help
  • books
What tops your list this week?

Saturday, 12 December 2015

I've changed something

If you read my blog through a feed reader, chances are you won't have noticed. I changed a few things here. Not that much, so don't panic.

I just added some colour, and changed the font, and...hmmm ok. Maybe the change wasn't that small.

Take a look. Tell me what works and doesn't work. I'm just glad to have done it, with my extremely limited skills :p

Friday, 11 December 2015

When plans go awry

Lately, I've been managing to prep posts the night before and have them good to go in the morning. Only, that didn't happen yesterday. I had no words to share.

So, I figured I'd do something in the morning about that. And still, no words, no ideas. It was probably still a hangover from the general feeling off that was yesterday. Yesterday was a bad day.

Today though, is much better. And I did have an idea for a post. I was going to change the template of the blog, and go "Look everyone, new look." Sadly, I haven't yet been able to find just the right thing. So I'll keep on looking.

In the meanwhile you get this light, breezy, and slightly odd post. Tomorrow, should be better.

Thursday, 10 December 2015

On flat panics and happy dances

It seems I've hit the point that I thought the daily post would bring me to. It's a share...which is scary for me. As most of you guys know, J and I have been all one and done since K arrived.

And then my period was late. I've never been late before except for that one time. I had all the cold panicked sweets, and thoughts for a week. A WEEK. 7 long, long, oh so long days.

And then, aunt flo started her visit and all was right with the world again. Much happy dancing was had by me. It just reaffirmed for me, one and done. I'm just so happy to have it reaffirmed to myself. And confirming what I knew at the start, I can't do this again.

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

Five for today

Keiden is meeting his teacher today. I hope it goes well, and helps me quell the panic of when I think about Jan 4th, and leaving him with someone new.

I've been back into my reading groove, which is great. I should keep better track of how much I've read in a year. I'm guessing this year is somewhere around the 60 or so mark. I had a month of 20 reads.

Mini, book reviews. I'd use the blurb, so it wouldn't just be my two sentences. Yay or nay?

I've been mulling going pescatarian. Any thoughts or things you thing might be worth reading?

How often do we say yes to things that scare us? Do you ever? I can't think of anything I've done this year that counts. Have you?

Tuesday, 8 December 2015

Amazing finds to help my book quest

Thanks to the wonder that is twitter, and folks sharing amazing things I've come across two finds to help my diverse books for Keiden book quest. Both are free to print! This means that not only can you get great stuff for your kid, but you can share it with your local library.

So go look around Book Dash, and African Storybook Project. And find a way to support them as best you can.

All the books for everyone!

Monday, 7 December 2015

Sometimes I wonder

If my struggle to quiet my mind has something behind it. Is this my mind pushing, and pushing at me to look deeper and harder? What does it want? What am I hiding from myself? What don't I want to see?

Am I the only one who does this? How do you quiet it in the middle of the night when you can't read/watch something to drown it out?

Is it even possible?

Sunday, 6 December 2015


This week, besides the obvious, I am grateful for:

  • coffee and cake with friends
  • friends remembering something small you needed, and getting it for you
  • snazzy sun hats
  • words
  • hugs
  • being able to be around for big Keiden moments
  • having a post appear in a newsletter
  • answers to questions
  • staff rebates approved
  • cooler days
  • dim sum and boa
  • post ideas
  • the smell of tea tree oil
  • being able to take my kid to the hospital when needed...medical aid ftw!
  • modern medicine

    What makes your list this week?

    Saturday, 5 December 2015

    Friday, 4 December 2015

    Five for Friday: Keiden edition

    Keiden has picked up some cute new words. My favourite of them is broekie though. For some unknown reason J and I called his swimming costume his swim brokeies. Then K got some underwear from his ah-ma, we call them broekies. And now he says it too :)  [Broekie is a Afrikaans word for underpants]

    He had a big boy moment, and pooped in the toilet. There was much gushing from the parents when that happened.

    Keiden is a lavender fiend. Whenever he is near the plants, he will grab the leaves to smell them.

    He has taken to wanting his room door closed when trying to fall asleep for his nap.

    One is a new favourite word. He loves saying one, and having you carry on counting for him. It might come from us doing count downs, counting steps as we go...and other random counting moments. One probably also stuck because of folks asking how old he is.

    Thursday, 3 December 2015

    Tips to make retail easier this year

    There is the easy one, where you can, shop online. And shop in advance.If it's too late for that for you these tips should help you a smidge.

    • Remember that the person working in the story, is a person. That means you acknowledge their greeting, and greet back. Trust me, acknowledgement of the person assisting you means they will be more friendly too.
    • Use please and thank you.
    • Don't treat the person you're dealing with like they're an idiot or less than. There are many people working retail with a degree or two - sometimes a job is better than no job. When I worked at book stores, 80% of my co-workers were people with degrees.
    • If you lose your cool with the person, take a deep breath and apologise for losing your cool over a THING. Take a moment, crack a weak joke and try again, or ask to speak with someone else.
    • If you're in a mood, rather not shop. If you can't avoid shopping, then tell the person in the store that you're crabby. It'll make it easier for both of you.
    Notice a theme yet? 

    If you treat the person working in the store with the respect and care you would like everyone wins. Trust me, they don't want to be working the long shifts they have to work at this time of the year. They don't set out to mess anything up. And more often than not, they're juggling at least 5 other requests besides yours.

    Just be as kind as you can, and you will get kindness in return.

    Wednesday, 2 December 2015

    Take a moment, hear people

    Last night, Cath tweeted about listening to the stories of those you meet.  And I remembered StoryCorp, for stories about moments in the day to day lives of people. I mentioned them before in a TED Thursday. The are their to share stories and keep oral history alive. It's just lovely.

    So take a moment and go listen to the stories.

    Tuesday, 1 December 2015

    Thoughts on grandparents

    With the recent visit of his ah-ma, and just how happy seeing her made Keiden I've been pondering grandparents. And more specifically, how I limit any interaction he has with my mother.

    Do you think that just as there are people who shouldn't be parents those same people shouldn't be grandparents? Are we supposed to expose our children to those we know have a greater than average chance of hurting them?

    I don't see it as responsible parenting, if I knowingly put him in the ambit of someone who can be unspeakably cruel. Or is there something I'm missing.

    For now, I'm glad that he has ah-ma, and a mim, who love him to bits, and get big smiles when we tell him we're going to see either of them.

    What are your thoughts on this?

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