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Thursday, 28 April 2011

Wednesday, 27 April 2011

Word Wednesday

This word will ring a bell with all the Brits ;)

  • a chattering or prattling noise of many persons speaking together
  • a noise made by a flock of birds
  • in the UK a young person of a type characterized by brash and loutish behaviour and the wearing of designer styled clothes; usually with the connotations of a low social status
*Hertnon, S. 2008. From afterwit to zemblanity. Auckland:New Holland Publishers

Monday, 25 April 2011

Thursday, 21 April 2011

Wednesday, 20 April 2011

Word Wednesday

This week we have a veiled insult.

  • a figure of speech wherein a taunting expression is softened by a jest
  • an insult veiled in grace
  • that species of an irony, which couches a disagreeable sense under agreeable expressions
*Hertnon, S. 2008. From afterwit to zemblanity. Auckland:New Holland Publishers

Monday, 18 April 2011

My bucket list

Lately I've noticed that quite a few people have a bucket list page on their blogs, and today being one of those days where I have no blog fodder I'll share mine with you.

In no particular order:
  • Get fit and healthy. I'll have achieved this by reaching my goal weight, completing a 20km big walk in a reasonable time, doing the same big walk the year after and finishing it with an improved time.
  • Own a home.
  • Go on a food tour of France, Spain and Italy.
  • Visit Japan, Ireland, Wales and Scotland.
  • See more of the world.
  • Learn Japanese.
  • Have a library/study like Henry Higgans has in the film version of My Fair Lady.
  • Keep a pot plant alive longer than six months.
  • Attend cooking school and learn lots about different styles of cooking.
  • Make dim sum, poa/boa and chur su.
  • Become a mom.
  • Get a puppy, and teach her/him tricks :)
  • Brave my fear of heights, and bunge jump.
  • Brave my fear of thunder storms by watching one on a veranda.
  • Complete my Terry Pratchett collection, meet him and have him autograph my copy of Mort.
  • Complete my collection and read all of the Detective Eve books by J.D. Robb aka Nora Roberts, and meet her and have her sign a copy of one of her novels.
  • Own a first edition copy of Pride and Prejudice.
  • Meet Neil Gaiman and have him autograph my copy of The Wake - book 10 of The Sandman Series.
  • Own first edition copies of as many of my favourite books as I can get my hands on.
  • Complete my Disney movie collection.
  • See The Fray perform live.
  • Attend Spiel.
  • Attend TED, not one of the TEDx, they'd be fun to go to, but TED is where it's at for me ;)
This is my list at the moment, but I think it'll grow. Do you have one?

Image from here.

Friday, 15 April 2011


We don't have a tv, so I don't watch the news, I read it. I read it on The Daily Maverick, News 24 and some other sites, as links are shared by folks on twitter and in chats. Had I not been following some people I would have missed finding out about Ficksburg. It kills me that in today's society we're more interested in fraking dumb National Cleavage Day, rather than the fact that a man got killed by cops for protesting against poor service delivery. What makes it worse is that those cops are not even suspended. The person they shot, was not even wearing a t-shirt. How fraking dangerous is an angry man with only his fists as weapons against men with guns? I have never wanted to leave SA more than I do know. There is clearly something wrong with us that the superficial shit is more important than someones death.

To make this day even more shitty, a friends mom passed away last night. I hate feeling so powerless to change anything. There's nothing I can do about our shitty government, and corrupt cops and nothing I can do to fix it all for my friend.

Thursday, 14 April 2011

Rediscovering poetry

I've been catching up on TED talks, and came across one by Sarah Kay. In her talk she performs two of her poems. The first one, If I should have a daughter, just grabs you. Her spoken word poetry has me rediscovering a love for poetry that was destroyed by the first semester of English 278. Watch the talk, and fall in love with poetry again :)


Last night I had dinner with a friend, and some friends of hers. After which we went bowling, at which I suck, but it was still fun :) JR's friends are these really awesome ladies, all well established professionals, with a lot going for them. What I found odd though, was when we briefly chatted about politics they said that there was no viable opposition party in the country for them to vote for, so they'd vote ANC. That comment slayed me, because I've always thought that anyone with any education would vote DA. I told them about this site, and how I figured that if someone who was waiting for a house had to see this they'd surely change their vote. To which the answer was they wouldn't, it's not how things are done, and for them and lots of others, the ANC is the only option. The reason why it's the only option; because it's tradition and they have loyalty.

Am I the only person astounded by this?

Ps. The other four ladies were, 2 doctors, a counseling psychologist, and a businesswomen. Not to mention that they were all in the late 30s to late 40s. And yes, they're Zulu.

Wednesday, 13 April 2011

Tuesday, 12 April 2011

An easy post

A lighthearted topic for today, a meme found at Acidicice's.

Age – 26

Bed size – Queen

Chore you hate – Washing the dishes. In our house if you cooked then you don't wash the dishes, guess who cooks ;)

Dogs – None, but we do want to get one, just need a place with a garden.

Essential start to your day – When Jerall is here a hug, when he's not here my good morning sms.

Favourite colour – Blue.

Gold or silver – White gold.

Height – I'm a shorty a 1.62m.

Instruments that you can play – Do the tambourine and triangle count?

Kids – 0

Live – Durban

Nicknames – Cas, I don't like it, but only those I've known for years can really get away with it, and love by my love.

Overnight hospital stays – One, I was in a car accident - well a bakkie hit me.

Pet peeve – Only one? I'm going to list some: whiny people, liars, queue jumpers, people who write in library books and those on power trips.

Quote from a movie – "These are not the droids you are looking for" - Star Wars Episode IV. I only really remember it because it tends to come up often.

Righty or lefty – Lefty, but I do a lot of things as if I was a righty. I learn best when shown how to do things, and given that those who teach me stuff tend to be rightys I end up doing things like a righty.

Siblings – Lots, brother and sister, stepbrother and sister, cousins with who I lived with giving me 2 more sisters, and well 2 female and male cousins that I grew up with, them being my mother's twin sisters kids.

Time you wake up – It depends, if Jerall is how I go sleep at a reasonable time so am awake between 7 and 9am on weekdays and weekends between 8 and 10am. If he's not here I freak myself out and stay up till anything after 2am so then wake up between 10 and 11am

Underwear – The comfy pretty kind.

Vegetables you dislike – Aubergines and choi are gross.

What makes you run late – Even when in a rush I do all that I need to do to feel ready to face the world.

X-rays – Once of my back following the accident, I also had a cat scan/mri whichever one of those they use to look at your head.

Yummy food you make – I'm really good at making pasta dishes, stews and a dessert that my family calls booba [spelling]. According to Jerall and the times he has seconds I'd say all my food is tasty ;)

Zoo favourite animal – Don't have one. I'm not a fan of zoos.

Monday, 11 April 2011

The thing is...

Much as I wish things were simple and easy to deal with they're not. I don't think I can forgive him, nor do I want to. Somehow though it's hard to shake the thought that I should forgive him, and by not doing so I'm being a terrible person. Yet, to paraphrase a friend, why do we forgive the horrible/unforgivable just because someone is sick. And shouldn't he be sorting out his stuff?

My sister, and some friends look at this as a time for me to sort out my issues. However, as two friends pointed out, why go there if it's not going to do me any good? The same goes for sorting things out with my mother, is it really going to do me any good talking to her? All of that aside life carries on, and things go back to normal; aside from moments of sadness. Sadness which the reasonable, rational side of me just doesn't understand why or the need thereof. So I've now termed it sadness for my brother and sister, well more for my brother.

Moving onto more pleasant things, the weekend was a mostly good one, aside from what has now become the usual stomach problems for me :-/ And the return of the Saturday sore throat, which I will try to put an end to before Cape Town. Nine days till Cape Town :)

How was your weekend? How are your plans for the break due to public holidays going?

Friday, 8 April 2011

Making sense of things

So my sister told me a little while ago that my father has cancer. I italicised father because I have 4 fathers: biological, the man who is my brother and sister's father and my adopted one, my stepfather, and an uncle. My uncle and aunt, and cousins were the folks I lived with during high school, who gave me stability and a sense of what a family should really be like. My father -biological parent of siblings - is the same man who beat the crap out of my mother during their marriage. One of the reasons I'm on the outs with her, is that a lot of my memories involving me, holding my brother and sister under the blankets trying to cover their ears so they didn't hear him and her fight and him beat her up, all the while thinking that I need to do something. No 8/9 year old should ever go through that, sadly to many of us do. She finally left him when I was about 11. So you can see lots of issues with both of them.

Added to those issues, is that my immediate family has know for months. They even kept it from my sister when she was writing her matric exams last year. My sister says he's doing ok, and that I should sort my issues out - a lot of wisdom for a month away from 19 :0. I just don't know what to do. I've not been talking to my mother tell I'm ready to deal with our issues, and now this. It's just thrown me so badly. My brother and sister are doing fine, aside from their issues - gah we're a messed up lot, but really what do you do in this situation?

Some people might find it inappropriate to put all this out there for anyone to see, but who cares. If I'm not ashamed about it, then why should it bother you?

Thursday, 7 April 2011

Getting back on track

So the getting fit and healthy track has slowed down a bit. Fortunately I've not put back on what I did lose :) I have recently gotten back on track, and it's come from a surprising source, a food journal. Thanks to my new phone, I've added My Fitness Pal, an app that helps me keep track of what I eat and, the number of calories I should consume to lose weight with my mostly sedentary lifestyle. I've only been doing this since Sunday, but it's made a big difference. Not in being more aware of what I eat, I've been doing that for awhile now, but more that it's really gotten me to see the relationship between balancing what I eat and exercise. The only downside is that if you're prone to getting a little obsessive about stuff, the app can get dangerous. I've already decided that once I reach my goal weight it's gone.

For right now though, it's a great tool that I'd encourage anyone to try out. If you don't have a phone that's supported, then start a food journal. Just remember to be honest :)

Image from here.

Wednesday, 6 April 2011

Tuesday, 5 April 2011

Blog challenge - Wishes

Sally-Jane had this post as a challenge to get people to think about and share their wishes for their funerals. It is a tricky subject, and one which I tend to shy away from, but then I thought why not. It's just another aspect of the "things you should do when you grow up" list. So here is mine:

  • For the ceremony, only those who want to/can speak should do so. There is no person x must speak business to happen. That said Jerall, you know about my poem.
  • Play music that reminds you of me, and throw in some of my favourites too. Please no hymns, for those moments rather play the quieter songs from the Macross Frontier ost, I'm sure a few of you know which ones I mean.
  • Jerall knows this already, but a reminder is in order - don't bury me, cremation please.
  • Ashes are to be scattered somewhere with a great view, where I'd be happy to just sit and chat, or read. That spot in Hermanus when we'd raid P's dad's place to go whale watching comes to mind as an example.
  • After the service everyone should have a group lunch/dinner and eat only the tasty stuff, have some sushi for me :)
That's it, I think I covered the most important parts. What would you do?

Monday, 4 April 2011


  • I got a new phone this weekend, the Galaxy S. I'm having fun with my new toy, figuring out tricks and yes, playing Angry Birds. After ages of reading about people playing it, I had to give it a whirl and it's been lots of fun, with the bonus of getting me a little more used to using a touch screen all the time.
  • There are two more weeks, including this one, of Jerall doing the Jhb thing for work :-/ Sometimes I think I miss the decent sleep more than I do him, but then I think about how empty the flat is without him; it just gives me the sads. It's weird that the flat feels empty during the day, even though it is when I'm normally alone here, but it could just be me being a silly.
  • In 17 days time we're going to Cape Town :D
  • The interview went well. Sadly, although HR told me they only do one, the manager - a great person, and someone I'd love to have as my boss - said that she is doing another round of interviews. I'll know on Thursday or Friday if I made the shortlist, so please keep all fingers crossed that I did. This is the first time in awhile, that there has been a job that I really, really wanted. Not to mention that the manager is great, when I asked about growth she said if there isn't a position for someone to grow into that she creates an opportunity for more growth. In fact the position I'm up for became vacant because of a growth opportunity created for someone else. So all kinds of awesome if I get the job.
  • I've been awake since 05:15 and I feel as if the day should be over soon :-/ I have no idea how people do this day in and day out, it's all kinds of crazy.
  • The weekend was a good one, we had fun playing Mage, saw some other friends and took it easy. The only down side is that lately the metformin has been kicking my ass. I had 2 cookies, 2, and it just went bad. Really I could deal with the pain and nausea if you know, I eat bags of cookies and chocolates and sweets everyday, but I don't. It's just getting a bit much for me, so much so that I'm inclined to ask Dr Useless if I wouldn't just be better off not taking it. I'm sure that it doesn't work for every women with pcos, and there has to be something else. *Whine over*
  • How are you doing?
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