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Wednesday, 12 May 2010

Thoughts on yesterday

So the interview yesterday afternoon was an hour and a half long, one of the longest I've had. A very important piece of information emerged during it. They want a two year commitment to staying with them. I'm not sure if I mentioned this before, but the company I interviewed with is the same company that Jerall works with. It seems that because we moved here for the job that he is a 'high risk leaver', so from there perspective a two year commitment rocks...they can invest more into him for their benefit. That part really sucked, because during the interview it became crystal clear to me that I'd be used by them as a means to lock down their plans for Jerall. The one lady even went so far as to tell me that what they plan for him is the opportunity of a lifetime, not so subtly implying that I'd be a bad wife for not going along with their plans, should I get the job and decide not to take it. Naturally that doesn't sit well with me. No one wants to feel as if there ability to get a job hangs on who they know and what that relationship can bring the company.

The biggest issue for us is two more years in Durban. Seriously?! We were chatting about it last night and it boils down to this: yes, we know a fairish number of people here, some are friends, some acquaintance/friend, but none of them are people we feel we'd be able to call in the middle of the night to help with an emergency. After being here for 2.5 years that pretty much says it all for me. Maybe we didn't try hard enough to meet people and fit in with the Durban scene, but given our hobbies we honestly didn't think it would be a problem. Maybe, I am being selfish in just wanting to go back to Cape Town, but I'm soo tired of not fitting in, not always knowing what people are talking about. I just want to feel like I belong again, that I know where places are/how to navigate my way around and most importantly to do more than call/sms/e-mail friends when they're going through stuff. This growing up business can be tough.

  8 comments:

  1. Ok I'm confused... is the interview you went to different to the CT one? #pregnancybrain!

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  2. Caz, the interview was for the Dbn job. I had an editing test for the CT job. :)

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  3. Ugh, what a terrible position for them to put you in! :-(

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  4. It does suck, but that's the wya the cookie crumbles.

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  5. Feeling a sense of belonging is fundamental.

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  6. Durban Rocks! Sorry you haven't settled in :(

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  7. Mostly the problem with settling in Durban is that it seems like people don't have room for more friends, they're happy with those they've had since school. :-/

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