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Wednesday, 30 January 2019

Now you are five

Dear Keiden,

Today you're a whole five years old 0_o Wow! 

Goodness, goose when did this happen? Your foot was smaller than my thumb, and now it's as big as my hand. Really this growing-up business you're doing is going just a bit too far now. You're really not a baby anymore - but you'll always be my baby. Or as you've taking to saying lately, you're a big little. And that's probably the best way to describe you and all the things you do. You're getting bigger every day, but there are still plenty of things that remind me that you're my little.

Your year of four was an...interesting one for us. We have fought a lot, you think ears are ornaments and I get tired of repeating myself. I often describe what's going on as I'm Charlie Brown's teacher...so all you hear is "Whaamp whaamp." And while we've been fighting nearly every day you and daddy are just having the best time. Sometimes you two would have moments, but not anywhere near as many as you and I. It was really bothering mommy, just how much we'd fight - and it felt like you and daddy had all this cool things the two of you would do and we didn't. Yes, we have books and going to the library, but it just didn't seem anywhere near as many things as you and daddy have together.

It turns out I was just having my silly goose moment. You and daddy have games, but we have pop culture. We tend to enjoy the same music, and shows more than you and daddy. So it has helped mommy feel that we also have our special just us stuff to do together. It's something I'm very glad we have. And while there's lots of things we three do together, it's important (and really great) that you have something just you and mommy, and just you and daddy. 

The year of you being four is when our family made a new friend -and it's been great for all of us. When not at school you tend to spend most of your time around adults, so it's always a win when we find people who like spending time with you too. And who you like seeing. Mommy was reminded of this when we went out for my birthday supper a few weeks ago - no one was bothered with talking to you about things and you weren't shy with anyone. You being comfortable around our/your people is always great for me to see.

Some of the bigger things that happened this past year was your first time flying somewhere. You and I went with daddy on some of his work trips, and we were super lucky fishes with ah-ma and ah-he arranging for us to go visit them and aunty C, uncle E, and B and N in PE. Your first ever flight was to Johannesburg, and monkey you fly so much better than mommy does. Yay! You enjoyed going on the Guatrain - which you called the cowtrain :) We went on four trips, so that means you had eight flights. You are such a lucky fish. I hope you keep on enjoying going to places and flying well. With each trip we got to see some of our people - always fun. But I think you enjoyed going to PE the most. And while there were some ugh moments during our trips for the most they went well for us. I'm not to sure if there will be many trips this year, but I do know if they are at least we don't need to worry about you having a good time.

Goose, your swimming just keeps on improving. Yay! It's great that you are learning that the more you work at something the better you can get at it. Knowing that things aren't always easy, and sometimes you need to work hard at it is a good life skill to have in your pocket. Your writing of numbers and letters is improving as well - but not as much as your lego and puzzle building. You just enjoy doing those more. While we still read picture books, you've gotten big into chapter books. We started with The Twits, which you really enjoyed and have since read very many. You current favourite series is the tree house books - those have been reread many, many times. Oh, you can read some words too. So while you're not quite reading on your own yet, you are able to pick out some words. I hope that this year you get to reading on your own. There are very few things as good as sinking into a book you enjoy.

While I often tell people you're full of nonsense when they ask me how you are; you have also given me many super proud mommy moments. And then I tell everyone just how amazing you are. My goose, you are such a kind person. You've better understood that there are privileges and not everyone is as lucky a fish as you are, that when I tell you about things happening and that we're going to help by donating somethings you want to give almost everything you have. (And while that great, let's remember not to help so much that we'll need help too.) Monkey nose, you are also at times far more grown-up than most grown-ups I know. You're very good at saving, and delayed gratification...and just knowing when you've had enough. There have been many moments when you're peopled-out or just tired and say we should stay at home. Even now, on your birthday you told us that you want to stay at home today, and go do things on Saturday and Sunday. That my love is amazing. Knowing what you want, what you need, and doing what you can to make it happen is just all kinds of wow.

There is so much more I could say, but this is getting a bit long now. I think five will have all kinds of interesting and fun adventures for you - and us. Just remember to not be too silly.

Love you much. Love you always.

Friday, 25 January 2019

Five for Friday

It's the last Friday till my goose is 5! Five, when did this happen? As such I'm mentally planning his now your are 5 letter/post.

I'm working on telling myself I'm not lazy - it's a really hard thing to break. But seriously, how lazy is a person who in three years completed two degrees and a diploma while holding down a steady part-time job, teaching and living a life with her family? So while I'm not great at doing lots of things, it does not mean that I'm lazy.

I've clicked that I really should not be surprised at my getting into Korean pop culture - BTS and dramas - because I've been into Japanese pop culture for years and years now.

Speaking of,  BTS and their music is something I give a fairly large degree of credit in helping Keiden and I not fight as much. It's been this thing that we have that is great for end of the day unwinding from people and stuff. Sometimes we watch the music videos, other times it's on in the background and we're doing something else.  It's just been great having fewer fights.

And I've done 23 days of yoga in a row. I'm feeling good that I'll make the 30 days of yoga...but the question now is what after. I may just start another one of the 30 days sets. I'll see.

How have you been?

Thursday, 24 January 2019

Book Review: Winner Takes All

Hiya folks, it's one of my support my reading habit posts :p

Winner Takes AllWinner Takes All (Warriors of the Heart #4)
By Laurie Winter

Storm Thompson wants to be anywhere but Liberty Ridge. Especially since his hometown also contains his childhood nemesis, Colleen Gardner. With a young daughter and mentally ill mother to care for, he struggles to simply make ends meet. Every day, his goal of owning an organic farm slips further out of reach.

Psychiatrist Colleen Gardner has her sights set on starting a retreat to help veterans suffering from PTSD. She's done well but her small town fundraisers just aren't enough.

"The Great American Scavenger Hunt" TV show offers a million-dollar prize, and Colleen and Storm are selected as competitors. Both resolve to do whatever is needed to win, even using the other to get ahead. Storm and Colleen compete to fund their dreams, but their already tattered relationship becomes more strained. Only one will win the money. But will love prove the ultimate prize?

You can find Winner Takes All on Goodreads

You can buy Winner Takes All here:
- Wild Rose Press
- Amazon

Previous books in the series:
Home FieldTrue HorizonAfter All


What I thought:

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

This is a tricky one to rate and review. There are parts of it that where great, and different to a lot of the sweet reads I've been reading lately. The setting plays a big part in that - it's very Amazing Race, but as individuals. That was fun.

But I also just really struggled to connect to the characters...which is so strange as both were developed and grew during the course of the book. I suppose it's because a lot of the interactions and motivations each attributed to the other was in miscommunication central. And just the utter blindness to how they real feel about each other -_- I did enjoy the nicely wrapped up ending - it's always nice to see a bit of the happily ever after.

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Friday, 4 January 2019

Music that's making me happy

Currently all the music that's making me happy is from BTS. Fortunately, Keiden has been enjoying it too...in fact it's gone a long way to help us not fight as much recently. We take half an hour or so, and just lay together watching the ones we like, it's been wonderful. We've also turned Jerall's youtube into BTS-tube :0

What music has been on your heavy rotation lately?

This one is Keiden's favourite.

This is the song that started it all for me.

Tuesday, 1 January 2019

Tuesday, 25 December 2018

Thursday, 13 December 2018

How big do you dream?

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In a recent chat with Zoe  - she of the amazing powers to create plans of action and get to the heart of the matter - we hit upon some uncomfortable points for me, they reminded me of therapy. And then it hit me, this is what life coaching is about. I was having a coaching session with Zoe, and while the experience on the surface of it seems easy, let me tell you it's not.

It starts off easily enough - your friend is moving into the coaching sphere and wants to make sure her process works. You go, yeah I have no idea about anything in my life anymore, let's give this a whirl. You get a short questionnaire, that you're told not to spend longer than five minutes on answering the few questions on. You see the questionnaire and okay it's easy-ish, you can do this....but why do I need to think about these things.Eventually, you answer the questions and send them back...and start the fun time of scheduling your half an hour call - I totally went for the voice call option, video call is not my friend.

And then you have the call...and it gets uncomfortable. Seriously, why is the adage of change is never easy or comfortable true? In the call we were chatting and Zoe made this excellent point (which I totally brought up in therapy) that the things I mentioned were small, they weren't this big dreams. And in not having this big dreams, I was doing myself a disservice, if the goals are small and easily achievable you don't need to push yourself or really change anything...so it is really a dream? It's more like what's holding you back.

So we went into those big it can't really happen, unrealistic dreams - okay, okay, big and unrealistic to me, Zoe was all this could totally happen. And in her it could totally happen she mentioned this small, easy to do, little daily actions that could help me get there. And still I'm all what, no ways, is this even for real. One of the things that came up was just how much I love the work done by this one research foundation and how there's amazing people there...and wouldn't it be great if I could do that. So guess who included a plan for things to do to find out more about that? Yip. And full disclosure, I haven't followed up on that (I'm still working up the nerve, like I can't just send an e-mail to an academic that's all gushy, I just can't yet) but two of the other things have been happening.

There's something to be said about this coaching thing and dreaming big but specifically. So ow I'm wondering just how big do you dream? Do you pull a me and keep things small because of all sorts of they belong in therapy reasons, or do you dream big but then not go for it? Either way you should totally check out Zoe's mad skillz. 

Friday, 23 November 2018

Five for Friday

Black Friday is ridiculous...it's the worst thing imported from the US to the rest of the world. At least with it happening today, the ads will end.

I was fiddling with some settings on Twitter, and got my account frozen two or so weeks ago. In order to get my account back I need to send them an image of my ID...so that's not going to happen, and I don't feel like starting a new account so basically no more Twitter for me. And so far it's been a bit odd, but I've not missed it. In terms of keeping up on news and other stuff, it's not been an issue because I've got newsletters. And on the plus side no more mindless scrolling - although I may have replaced that with Goodreads scrolling -_-

This is pretty interesting:

I recently finished reading Hunger by Roxane Gay. It's a contemplative read, that reads really quickly. And has me pondering so much about how I look at my body, and we are constructed into certain views of what makes a body.

And some Keiden news - he is being a goose, that is all :p

Wednesday, 21 November 2018

Pause for joy

I used to do this thing I called a daily happy...and then someone who was a good friend said something really cruel about it. And you guessed it I stopped doing it. But lately there have been a few things I've come across that reminded me that the daily happy was a good thing for me, and my family. So two days ago we started it again at supper - and with my sharing it with folks via whatsapp. Only this time I've amended it to add talking about something that wasn't so good in your day - we all need to work on our emotional vocab. 

It's also helping K get that having a sad moment is okay...he's had a lot of just feeling down moments lately, and taking stock of what's good and what's adding to the down moment is a good thing for him to start learning. He loves the happy part, and will list many things and ask what's all our things.

For some more reasons to add to your pausing for joy/gratitude check out this short Vlogbrothers video

And on the local front Nikki wrote a great post about it too.

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