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Friday, 4 January 2019

Music that's making me happy

Currently all the music that's making me happy is from BTS. Fortunately, Keiden has been enjoying it too...in fact it's gone a long way to help us not fight as much recently. We take half an hour or so, and just lay together watching the ones we like, it's been wonderful. We've also turned Jerall's youtube into BTS-tube :0

What music has been on your heavy rotation lately?

This one is Keiden's favourite.

This is the song that started it all for me.

Tuesday, 1 January 2019

Tuesday, 25 December 2018

Thursday, 13 December 2018

How big do you dream?

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In a recent chat with Zoe  - she of the amazing powers to create plans of action and get to the heart of the matter - we hit upon some uncomfortable points for me, they reminded me of therapy. And then it hit me, this is what life coaching is about. I was having a coaching session with Zoe, and while the experience on the surface of it seems easy, let me tell you it's not.

It starts off easily enough - your friend is moving into the coaching sphere and wants to make sure her process works. You go, yeah I have no idea about anything in my life anymore, let's give this a whirl. You get a short questionnaire, that you're told not to spend longer than five minutes on answering the few questions on. You see the questionnaire and okay it's easy-ish, you can do this....but why do I need to think about these things.Eventually, you answer the questions and send them back...and start the fun time of scheduling your half an hour call - I totally went for the voice call option, video call is not my friend.

And then you have the call...and it gets uncomfortable. Seriously, why is the adage of change is never easy or comfortable true? In the call we were chatting and Zoe made this excellent point (which I totally brought up in therapy) that the things I mentioned were small, they weren't this big dreams. And in not having this big dreams, I was doing myself a disservice, if the goals are small and easily achievable you don't need to push yourself or really change anything...so it is really a dream? It's more like what's holding you back.

So we went into those big it can't really happen, unrealistic dreams - okay, okay, big and unrealistic to me, Zoe was all this could totally happen. And in her it could totally happen she mentioned this small, easy to do, little daily actions that could help me get there. And still I'm all what, no ways, is this even for real. One of the things that came up was just how much I love the work done by this one research foundation and how there's amazing people there...and wouldn't it be great if I could do that. So guess who included a plan for things to do to find out more about that? Yip. And full disclosure, I haven't followed up on that (I'm still working up the nerve, like I can't just send an e-mail to an academic that's all gushy, I just can't yet) but two of the other things have been happening.

There's something to be said about this coaching thing and dreaming big but specifically. So ow I'm wondering just how big do you dream? Do you pull a me and keep things small because of all sorts of they belong in therapy reasons, or do you dream big but then not go for it? Either way you should totally check out Zoe's mad skillz. 

Friday, 23 November 2018

Five for Friday

Black Friday is ridiculous...it's the worst thing imported from the US to the rest of the world. At least with it happening today, the ads will end.

I was fiddling with some settings on Twitter, and got my account frozen two or so weeks ago. In order to get my account back I need to send them an image of my ID...so that's not going to happen, and I don't feel like starting a new account so basically no more Twitter for me. And so far it's been a bit odd, but I've not missed it. In terms of keeping up on news and other stuff, it's not been an issue because I've got newsletters. And on the plus side no more mindless scrolling - although I may have replaced that with Goodreads scrolling -_-

This is pretty interesting:

I recently finished reading Hunger by Roxane Gay. It's a contemplative read, that reads really quickly. And has me pondering so much about how I look at my body, and we are constructed into certain views of what makes a body.

And some Keiden news - he is being a goose, that is all :p

Wednesday, 21 November 2018

Pause for joy

I used to do this thing I called a daily happy...and then someone who was a good friend said something really cruel about it. And you guessed it I stopped doing it. But lately there have been a few things I've come across that reminded me that the daily happy was a good thing for me, and my family. So two days ago we started it again at supper - and with my sharing it with folks via whatsapp. Only this time I've amended it to add talking about something that wasn't so good in your day - we all need to work on our emotional vocab. 

It's also helping K get that having a sad moment is okay...he's had a lot of just feeling down moments lately, and taking stock of what's good and what's adding to the down moment is a good thing for him to start learning. He loves the happy part, and will list many things and ask what's all our things.

For some more reasons to add to your pausing for joy/gratitude check out this short Vlogbrothers video

And on the local front Nikki wrote a great post about it too.

Thursday, 1 November 2018

Book Blitz: Hex Marks the Spot by Ani Gonzalez

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Ollo folks, it's another in support of my reading habit posts :p This one has a review, and really you need to check out the Banshee Creek books...they're a great mix of paranormal cozy mystery and romance. Which made my involvement with the book blitz/tour for this book a given.

This is my stop during the book blitz for Hex Marks The Spot by Ani Gonzalez. This book blitz is organized by Lola's Blog Tours. The book blitz runs from 29 October till 4 November. See the tour schedule here.

Hex Marks The SpotHex Marks The Spot (Drop Dead Witchy #1)
By Ani Gonzalez
Genre: Urban Fantasy
Age category: New Adult, Adult
Release Date: 21 October 2018

Going to Hell is easy. Going back home is a different story.

They say you can never go back. I wish that was the case.

Returning home is complicated when you’re a necromancer and your hometown is the Most Haunted in America. It doesn’t help that your pet hellhound chihuahua thinks the place is a dump, and it gets worse when your high school crush is still there and still dead sexy. Literally, as he’s now a ghost.

Oh, and did I mention that I have to save the world? I tell you, going to Hell is easy.


4 Stars of awesome :D

I really enjoyed the Banshee Creek series, and this is a great continuation of that world. And there's some sparks of romantic interest :p

As in Claire's show, Pookie is the star of it all. And while the mystery is interesting enough, the real enjoyment of this read for me came with all the little details of folks meet in other stories being given more depth. I'm certainly looking at the PRoVE folks a lot differently thanks to this read. All in all this read hits a sweet spot of blending the familiar with new so that anyone new to the Banshee Creek world won't feel like they're missing any needed details.


You can find Hex Marks The Spot on Goodreads

You can buy Hex Marks The Spot here on Amazon

Ani GonzalezAbout the Author:
I'm a USA Today bestselling author of paranormal romantic comedy and cozy mystery (whew, that's a mouthful!) set in Banshee Creek, Virginia, The Most Haunted Town in the USA. My books feature feisty, irrepressible heroines dealing with a host of paranormal critters (ghosts, cryptids, pagan gods...the sky's the limit) and mysteries. They find love and laughter (and sometimes corpses) along the way, and readers get to follow them every step of the way.

I love quirky towns with spooky stories, and, thanks to my books, I get to "live" in one year-around. In real life I live in a Virginia suburb (which is sadly lacking in ghosts) with my husband, three children, two cats, and one adorable dog.

You can find and contact Ani Gonzalez here:
- Website
- Facebook
- Twitter
- Goodreads
- Amazon
- Bookbub

Wednesday, 31 October 2018

Book Blitz: The Second Chance by Catherine Mann

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Ollo folks, this is one of those posts of things I do to support my reading habit :p

This one is a book blitz for The Second Chance by Catherine Mann. This book blitz is organized by Lola's Blog Tours. The book blitz runs from 29 October till 11 November. See the tour schedule here.

The Second ChanceThe Second Chance (Alaskan Oil Barons #5)
By Catherine Mann
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Age category: Adult
Release Date: November 1, 2018

She can’t remember the last five years…

Or the man who says he’s her husband.

Chuck Mikkelson knows Shana doesn’t remember him…or that she wanted a divorce. But now she’s back in his home, and he vows to save their union at all costs. This may be the only second chance he has to win back his wife. Will their rekindled passion be enough to convince her to stay when her memory returns?

You can find The Second Chance on Goodreads

You can buy The Second Chance here:
- Amazon
- Barnes &Noble
- Kobo

Catherine MannAbout the Author:
USA Today bestseller Catherine Mann writes contemporary romance for Harlequin, Tule, Sourcebooks and Berkley. With over seventy-five books released in more than twenty countries, she has won a RITA Award, the Romantic Times Magazine Reviewer’s Choice Award, and the Bookseller’s Best Award. She’s also celebrated six RITA finals, an RT Reviewer’s Award finalist, three Maggie Award of Excellence finals and a Bookseller’s Best win. After years moving around the country bringing up four children, Catherine has settled in her home state of South Carolina. The nest didn’t stay empty long though as she is active in animal rescue. Catherine enjoys hearing from her readers and can be found online frequently on Facebook. She can also be reached via mail at: P.O. Box 291023, Columbia, SC 29229. (For a free bookmark, send a self addressed stamped envelope.)

You can find and contact Catherine Mann here:
- Website
- Facebook
- Twitter
- Goodreads
- Amazon
- Instagram
- Pinterest

There is a tour wide giveaway for the book blitz of The Second Chance. Five winners win an ebook of their choice of either the first or second book in the Alaskan Oil Barons series – The Baby Claim or The Double Deal by Catherine Mann. US Only.
The Baby ClaimThe Double Deal

For a chance to win, enter the rafflecopter below:
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Start the Alaskan Oil Barons series with the first two books!
The Baby ClaimThe Double Deal

The Baby Claim (Alaskan Oil Barons #1)
From a family feud...to a one-night stand ending in heartbreak.
Now will these rivals get a second chance at love?


The Double Deal (Alaskan Oil Barons #2)
Snowbound with a sexy stranger…will sharing his bed destroy her plans or lead to forever?


Friday, 26 October 2018

Five for Friday

Hi there folks, *awkwardly waves*

Mostly this is a post before some book related stuff pops up again. It's something I need to do for me to not feel that this is my space to just drop my reading habit support book things :p

  • Emma Approved is back :D
  • My kid is just amazing - he's wanted to donate all his things for those from the Khayelitsha fires. I'm just having all the proud parent feelings about it.
  • Jerall is submitting his MA thesis next week.
  • I'm having moments of ugh, I don't have a plan for next year yet. It is a very strange place to occupy.
  • And when I've gotten a turn and some free moments this game has been for me. The review video below is pretty good...especially the last few minutes :p

Tuesday, 24 July 2018

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Me in a nutshell: I game, read, tweet, enjoy good food, have bouts of red pen rage and I'm a coffee snob.

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2019 Reading Challenge

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