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Thursday, 21 September 2017

Five for today: Catch up edition

Hiya folks, welcome to today's word babble catch up :p


  • The year is speeding by, and it seems faster and faster with each day. In just over 3 weeks I'm sending my thesis for editing 0_o That means in 3 weeks it needs to be done...which includes a new chapter. So that's umm interesting.
  • All the thesis work, and you know me actually getting things done for it has meant some interesting thoughts for the way in which I see myself...therapy has gotten tough.
  • Therapy while being a grown-up [and thesising] is something I think everyone needs.Yes, the thesis is pretty much dominating my life.
  • I just found a piece of Lego in my bag - a sure sign that my kid is into Lego :p
  • This song, has been on loop this week. No idea why, but it works...check it out.

Wednesday, 13 September 2017

So let's chat hair

My new do
Hiya folks, gosh does it seem like I have hair vent moments here a lot. This morning I got a haircut...I went from my hair just past my shoulders to what you see in the pic. The thing I got a lot of talking to about my hair while at the hairdresser. It started with the person who washed my hair saying she would do so much if she had hair like mine, why don't I blow dry and flat iron it, why do I want to cut it. Going to the hairdresser, who knows I don't want any chemical treatments to straighten my hair to the person who was assisting the hairdresser making comments about how I need to do x, y, and z with my hair, and that I'm going to miss the length.*

And I'm just so freaking over it. Seriously, my hair, my hair is good hair. My hair is GOOD hair because I say it is. I am working so, so hard to work with the hair I have, and not go for some idea of what others thing good hair is. My hair will never be that hair. So if I can deal with it, then you whose hair it isn't, should just suck it up.

And you know hair is just the tip of the iceberg. Why is it that people think they can talk to you, not with you about things related to - well if you want to chat about it. Seriously, we got to get over ourselves, and think that it's okay to carry on like this. The choices others make, if they don't endanger others is not is only those folks business. NO ONE else.

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*There is a big difference between giving me info to make sure my hair is healthy versus telling me things because you believe everyone must have straight hair.

Friday, 25 August 2017

Five for Friday: Keiden Edition

Instead of giving my standard answer of "Full of nonsense" when asked how Keiden is doing, I'll give you a little more ;)


  • His love of Lego and Star Wars just keeps on growing and growing. My youtube suggestions are full of things related to both of them -_-
  • He got given a set of alphabet cards - upper and lower case with animals - to play GoFish and since he's gotten it we've been playing every day. It's a lot of fun to see him enjoying it, and getting more into games that is fun enough for us to play with him.
  • Food and cooking is still one of his things. He and Jerall are baking nearly every weekend.
  • Last weekend while driving somewhere a song comes on the radio and Keiden just starts singing-along. Jerall and I looked at each other wondering how he would know this song. Keiden then said "I like this song. We dance at school."  It was ridiculously cute, because he was just singing his own words and not fully the words of the song.
  • He has taken to running like a ninja 

Thursday, 24 August 2017

Book Thursday: Review The Sullivans Boxed Set by Bella Andre

It's been a while since there's been a book Thursday post here 0_o  And the return comes with a review. I'm so glad to have found the occasional read thanks to taking part in book tours. First there'll be my review, and then this time I've included the blurb bits. I've realised my thoughts tend to not include those. Please, let me know what you think of this format.
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The Sullivans Boxed Set Books 1-3 (Contemporary Romance)The Sullivans Boxed Set Books 1-3 by Bella Andre
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

An utterly enjoyable introduction to an interesting family. I'm a big fan of a series that isn't quite a series, each story can be read as a stand alone, but with a family as invested in each other's lives as the Sullivans you can't help but want to read them all.

They remind me a smidge of the Bridgertons.

This set includes Chase, Marcus and Gabe's stories. Each story has great interactions occurring amongst all 8 siblings. You become invested with each book because you get to see more of the clan.

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The Sullivans Boxed Set Books 1-3The Sullivans Boxed Set Books 1-3 (Sullivans #1-3)
By Bella Andre


Blurb:

THE LOOK OF LOVE
Chloe Peterson is having a bad night. A really bad night. The large bruise on her cheek can attest to that. And when her car skids off the side of a wet country road straight into a ditch, she's convinced even the gorgeous guy who rescues her in the middle of the rain storm must be too good to be true. Or is he?

As a successful photographer who frequently travels around the world, Chase Sullivan has his pick of beautiful women, and whenever he's home in San Francisco, one of his seven siblings is usually up for causing a little fun trouble. Chase thinks his life is great just as it is--until the night he finds Chloe and her totaled car on the side of the road in Napa Valley. Not only has he never met anyone so lovely, both inside and out, but he quickly realizes she has much bigger problems than her damaged car. Soon, he is willing to move mountains to love--and protect--her, but will she let him?

FROM THIS MOMENT ON
For thirty-six years, Marcus Sullivan has been the responsible older brother, stepping in to take care of his seven siblings after their father died when they were children. But when the perfectly ordered future he's planned for himself turns out to be nothing but a lie, Marcus needs one reckless night to shake free from it all.

Nicola Harding is known throughout the world by only one name - Nico - for her catchy, sensual pop songs. Only, what no one knows about the twenty-five year old singer is that her sex-kitten image is totally false. After a terrible betrayal by a man who loved fame far more than he ever loved her, she vows not to let anyone else get close enough to find out who she really is...or hurt her again. Especially not the gorgeous stranger she meets at a nightclub, even though the hunger - and the sinful promises - in his dark eyes make her want to spill all her secrets.

CAN’T HELP FALLING IN LOVE
Gabe Sullivan risks his life every day as a firefighter in San Francisco. But after learning a brutal lesson about professional boundaries, he knows better than to risk his heart to his fire victims ever again. Especially the brave mother and daughter he saved from a deadly apartment fire...and can't stop thinking about.

Megan Harris knows she owes the heroic firefighter everything for running into a burning building to save her and her seven-year-old daughter. Everything except her heart. Because after losing her navy pilot husband five years ago, she has vowed to never suffer through loving - and losing - a man with a dangerous job again.


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Friday, 28 July 2017

Five for Friday

It's been a time of feelings...all the feelings. I've been reminded yet again just how important therapy is. Anxiety and stress means dealing with things and experiences I've  never dealt with before.

This post, by Laura is just wonderful. I think we forget that not everyone gets the parenting moments - but don't be mistaken we do love it.

August is shaping up to be very busy, on top of busy...and really I just want to shout for it to stop.

Keiden is being all kinds of sweet, and his hugs and cuddles are helping lots. Even with all his silly moments...and man are there very many silly moments.

Next week we're having a department conference...ja, that's going to be interesting.

What's up with you?

Friday, 21 July 2017

When it becomes too much

When it becomes too much, and the dog is heavy on your back please, please find someone you can tell.

In SA you can use these numbers from SADG

Dr Reddy's Help Line
0800 21 22 23
Pharmadynamics Police &Trauma Line
0800 20 50 26
Adcock Ingram Depression and Anxiety Helpline
0800 70 80 90
Destiny Helpline for Youth & Students
0800 41 42 43
ADHD Helpline
0800 55 44 33
Department of Social Development Substance Abuse Line 24hr helpline
0800 12 13 14
SMS 32312
Suicide Crisis Line
0800 567 567
SMS 31393
SADAG Mental Health Line
011 234 4837
Akeso Psychiatric Response Unit 24 Hour
0861 435 787


Friday, 7 July 2017

Five for Friday: Tiny Desk Edition

I recently found this awesome thing on NPR - Tiny Desk. It's a 3 songs set performed at the NPR offices. Charming, raw, delightful. I've come across some new to me musical acts, plus a few performances by musicians I've enjoyed before. Enjoy the 5 I've looped a few times.










Thursday, 6 July 2017

An interruption to your regular reading

There I was, getting a hair treat - deep conditioning, and blow - and while the hairdresser was busy with my hair the other customers started to chatter away in Afrikaans. Here's the thing Stellenbosch is an Afrikaans town, I read, write and speak it too...but not often, I tend to English. As a result I chat to my hairdresser in English because my Afrikaans is just too English. 

So for some reason  - the "you speak so well" bullshit, plus my accent that I get told is not South African, these other customers at the hairdresser decided I obviously don't understand Afrikaans. So they decided to have a big, fat chat with each other and the hairdresser about how my hair now looks good. And she is getting a workout trying to get my hair to look good. I walked in with big, curly fro going on. Now my hairdresser knows I know Afrikaans but she did not a damn shut them up or anything.

Yes, I didn't say anything because I AM FREAKING TIRED of always having to be the PoC calling white folks on their ish. It is not my job to stop you from being an idiot. Get a freaking clue.

This brings me to a few things.

Is it your business what I do with my hair that doesn't meet your bullshit idea of what "good" hair is? NO!

Is it your business that I speak better than you expect someone of my skin tone to do? NO!

Is how I dress any of your business? NO!

Is my weight any of your business? NO!

Is any part of my life/journey/thoughts your business? NO!

So how about this stay about of my business, when I want your opinion I'll ask you. And trust me, I know it goes both ways.

Take your stupid, heteronormative, hegemonic bullshit views and get them away from me.

MY JOURNEY IS NOT YOURS. YOUR JOURNEY IS NOT MINE!


Friday, 23 June 2017

That one time I went to a thing

Yesterday, this lucky fish got attend a launch for Baby Dove SA, and oh my goodness was it a good time.


One of the very pretty displays showing off the range.

The venue was gorgeous, the products all kinds of cool...and the people were both.  The all kinds of awesome Chereen - who very kindly was my ride - and I arrived a smidge late, but we weren't the last to arrive, so we got in some chatting with folks before things got going. I grabbed some coffee, and said hi to those and I knew, including some of my favourite people, found a seat and learnt some great things.

The event started with a panel, with the ladies on it sharing their parenting journey and story. The focus was very much on how we feel judged about how we mother, and that we should trust ourselves, and be real. As such we were asked to write down our wish for ourselves and other parents when it came to parenting. You can see mine in the pic below :0

My wish for parents, we were asked to write and share these

Throughout the venue - a rather gorgeous house - were framed sayings, and letters from moms to moms. It was a cunning plan to have this happen in a house, because we were being introduced to something we would bring into our own homes for our families. Post the panel we moved to a different room where there was a large table in the middle. The table was used to demonstrate some aspects of the products, the demonstrations were part of a fascinating information session with some of the kick ass ladies on the research and development team. Dove took great care in working with pediatricians who know their stuff. Everything is hypoallergenic, pediatrician approved, and just lush. 

Bonus points, none of the products were tested on animals, and the grey bathwater can be used on your plants. And here in SA there is also a petrolum jelly, a product just for the South African range - it turns out it is something the market wants here.
Pretty packaging ftw!
I had a great time, with some great food, friends and all the learning about the many layers that make up our skin - why yes, I'm a bit of a nerd :p We also got products to take home and try. J, K and I tried the wipes - which don't tear, and come out of the package one at a time. Yes, ONE AT A TIME, and they're not overly wet or dry..pretty much a perfect wipe. FYI, the normal wipes got my mascara off pretty well. You don't try all the wipes too? ;)  Keiden tried the sensitive lotion last night, and it worked a treat.

The range to try out.
The range is already at BabyCity, BabyBoom and BabiesRUs stories, and will be in all the usual stores come the start of July. It is a premium baby product, and as such is priced a bit higher than some other baby products, but it's worth it.\

And of course a great big thank you to all the people who made this happen. It was a great time :D

Thursday, 22 June 2017

Book Thursday: Book Blitz All The Glitters by Tracy Krimmer

Hiya folks, by now you know the drill for these book blitz posts. As seems to be the norm for these book tours there is a giveaway attached.

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My thoughts on the book


All That GlittersMy rating: 3 of 5 stars

Goodness this was a tricky read, and as such it's a 2.5 read. I think this was the first instance of getting both central characters points of view, where it didn't serve the story well.

The first chapter has you starting with Dory, and you end the book with Harris. And as such for me it felt rather incomplete. This is Dory's story. Yes, Harris is part of it, but any growth and change in him was minor. Especially, when compared to just what Dory was dealing with.

Part of the two of them getting together include the "unfinished" high school elements. That read as very contrived to me.

That said, Dory's story would be very different for not some of the way in which having Harris there impacted her actions. And the same for Harris. I appreciate that the author did clearly establish both characters as separate people, and not just add-ins to the stories.

Still more Dory, in her story...and some more Tammy and Dory's grandmother moments would have gone a long way.

*I am a lucky fish and received an ARC of this book*

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You can buy All That Glitters here.

Tracy KrimmerAbout the Author:
Tracy's love of writing began at nine years old. She wrote stories about aliens at school, machines that did homework for you, and penguins. Now she pens books and short stories about romance. She loves to read a great book, whether it be romance or science fiction, or any genre in between, or pop popcorn and catch up on her favorite TV shows or movies. She's been known to crush a candy or two as well. Her loves include fitness, reading, coffee, dogs, and naps (not in that order), and her dislikes are blue cheese, cold weather, and burpees.

You can find and contact Tracy here:
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